3. Fuck with your hips, not your cock.
Fucking is in the hips. It’s in the arms. It’s in the stomach. It’s in the embrace. That’s where “fucking” comes from. It’s not in your cock. It’s your hips, arms, stomach, etc using your cock. This isn’t some dance analogy thing. This is a mindset change. You’re not there to in/out with your cock. You’re there to fuck with your body and if you’re not using your body to fuck then you won’t get the same effect for either yourself or her. You won’t be able to lose yourself in the motion and so you’ll have problems with rhythm. You won’t be able to tell where she’s at because your bodies aren’t participating together. Rhythm is the orgasm maker so get into a flow. This, I believe, also helps with staying power because your mind isn’t on you, it’s on the act.
Don’t be a douche bag, endeavor to engage in the act. Be where you are doing what you’re doing.
4. Understand the pussy.
Here’s a tasteful picture:
Obviously the clitoris is the most immediate way for a woman to have an orgasm. For direction stimulation I recommend gentle grind fucking, focusing on the area where your cock meets your pelvis, intermixed with penetration aimed at the G-spot which is like three inches inside the vagina on the top. It feels textured (roughish) compared to everything else so it’s easy to find. There’s also the U spot but, honestly, that’s right at the urethra and if you’re going down on her then you’ll find it. I’m almost convinced that this one was differentiated just to give people something to talk about.
But there’s also another spot known as the A spot which is where the mythical vaginal orgasm lies. ‘A spot’ stands for Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone and it’s on the front of the vagina at the very back, roughly in front of the cervix (frontside of the woman’s body aka anterior). This is also known as the ‘deep spot’ or bottoming out and it absolutely shouldn’t be taken lightly. For one thing, if you can reach back there then depending on your flow you run the very real danger of stabbing her cervix with your cock which serves only to produce the most pained look on your partner’s face. She will recoil and she will not be happy. The area around the cervix is sexually sensitive but the cervix hates you. Don’t poke it.