Ever get in a room at a family gathering with that one relative who always wants to know your entire life plan that very second?
Or you’re on a date and they want to know what specific age you want to get married and what kind of house you want to live in?
Really? Cause I don’t even know what I want for breakfast this morning!
But this social scenario got me thinking of that common question…
“So…where do you want to be in ten years?”
I don’t believe there is a specific place I want to be in ten years. I don’t believe there is a specific number of kids I want to have. I don’t believe there is a certain salary I need to be making to feel fulfilled. Or a certain title I should have on my LinkedIn account.
Sometimes it’s easier to know where you want to be once you’ve eliminated attributes from where you’ve been. I have gone through a handful of negative relationships, a bunch of so called “friendships,” and a few jobs that weren’t the best fit.
I know I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who takes me for granted. I don’t want my significant other to insist on the importance of my looks over the importance of my heart. I know I don’t want to be in friendships that thrive upon others’ shortcomings. I don’t want to work for a company that does not value generating ideas and concepts. I know I don’t want to live in a place where there is no opportunity to grow, no hustle and bustle, no action.
Here’s what I do want:
In the next ten years, I want to love every part of my life.
I want to know that my bosses are people that will not only give me constructive criticism directly but allow me to share my ideas and act on them.
I want a partner who will have my back. I want the kind of brave love that I don’t have to worry about leaving when times are tough. Not just because he loves me but because he believes in what we can do as a unit.
I want friends who keep me laughing with their genuine opinions and lust for life. I want amazing people around who do not gossip and blame, but listen and empower. People that don’t push you to be flawless, but push you to be creative.
I want to live in a place where innovation is valued. Whether it be in state government, community parks and recreation, downtown nightlife – I know I need to live in a location where the masses aren’t saying, “Well, we have always done it this way.”
I know that’s not the “Married in five, Kids in six, Making 100K in seven years” perfect answer. But it is my answer. And the truth is, I am not perfect. But for the first time in my life I can say, I’m not trying to be.