If you’re reading this, there’s a chance that at some point, your wedding planning turned overwhelming. One moment, you were all excited and ready to plan your dream wedding, and the next, you’re wondering if you should just call things off. Take a pause before you do and understand that you are not alone. All the juggling of tasks and coordination you’re doing is enough to turn anyone into a nervous wreck. Breathe… Things can and WILL get better.
We believe that your wedding planning journey can stay fun. You can have a positive and uplifting wedding planning experience. All you have to do is effectively deal with the anxiety and you’ll be well on your way. Here are 10 ways to deal with anxiety around your wedding planning so that your journey can become fun again.
1. Start by Accepting Your Feelings
A pivotal step to sorting out your anxiety about your wedding planning is accepting that it exists in the first place. Couples often find themselves too caught up in their planning process to even consider their mental health. So, you’ll find yourself having these feelings but refusing to address them. The problem is that while it’s completely normal to feel a little nervous about your wedding day or your choice of bands for hire, this should only be a little. If you’re feeling worse and discover you have more negative feelings about the whole thing than positive ones, it’s time to face what’s going on squarely.
2. Pinpoint The Reason
After acceptance, the next step is to find out why. What about your wedding planning is getting to you? Does your heart beat faster whenever you hear the words “wedding budget”? If this is it, then you may be avoiding talking about it. This way of dealing with it will only make things worse. An open conversation, on the other hand, will take a massive burden off your shoulders. That way, you can know exactly how much you have and plan your wedding accordingly. As a bonus, you’ll also be avoiding future wedding planning stress by sorting this out on time.
3. Understand That Perfection Is Impossible
Have you ever pictured how the world would be if everything went perfectly according to plan? Boring is the answer. Things would be lethargic and very dull. Imperfection is a huge part of human existence and will show up in your wedding planning too. So be prepared to deal with it. Don’t get too bent out of shape trying to make sure that every single thing goes perfectly. Just do your best, accept that you’ve made good choices with your venue, wedding musicians, photographer, and then watch things unfold. Keep in mind that what really matters in the end is that you’ll be marrying the love of your life.
4. Keep Your Sense Of Humor
Honestly, life is nothing without laughter. That’s why it’s important to make sure you never lose your sense of humor during this process. Those late nights laughing about a DIY gone wrong with your partner will make for excellent memories in the future. Be silly with each other and just keep the best things in perspective. What’s that, you ask? It’s your love, of course!
5. Set Healthy Goals
For example, aiming for your wedding planning process to be completely stress-free is an impossible task. That makes it an unhealthy goal. Instead, focus on how you’ll handle stress and anxiety when they happen. One good way is to ensure that you plan your wedding based on you and your partner’s core values instead of what your anxiety says. Also, when you’re feeling incredibly anxious about a decision, try to focus on the decision and not your anxiety.
6. Mindfulness Is Important
Find the meditation and mindfulness techniques that work for you. They’ll help you cope with and manage your wedding planning anxiety easily. Studies have proven that just 10 minutes of meditation in a day can work wonders. So, if you need to, download an app and then get started. There are many free and paid ones available.
7. Set Boundaries
This is another thing that could cause anxiety for couples during their planning. All those confusing rules disguised as advice from family and friends could pile up and make you confused. If you find that some of your loved ones contribute to your wedding anxiety in this way, it might be time to set boundaries. A simple but firm “Thanks, but we’ve already sorted this out” could do the magic.
8. Find An Outlet
All that anxious energy is building up and needs to go somewhere. Channel it into helpful things like exercising or reading a good book. You could even get started on a hobby you’ve been meaning to get to. Long nature walks and other activities that help you relax could also come in handy here.
9. Eat Healthily
Don’t worry, we’re not about to get on you about your diet. That’s another thing that could cause stress for wedding couples, by the way. Just be yourself. That’s who your partner loves and is excited about getting married to. That aside, eating healthy can positively affect your mental health, leading to less anxiety. All those high energy snacks you’re reaching for because you’re stressed could be the problem. They just make your body more stressed.
Instead, make sure you get your full three meals in a day. Healthy snacks as an alternative are also a great idea. Overall, remember that your body tends to break down proteins more when you’re stressed. So, supplement that by including protein in every meal. It’ll help keep your energy levels more balanced during the day.
10. Ask for Help
Like we said earlier, you are not alone. A simple talk with your partner or professionals like your wedding planner and celebrant could help. Friends and family could also have a tip or two to chip in that could help. So, don’t hesitate to talk to them and get any assistance that you need. If you find that the above does not help or you’re experiencing symptoms like panic attacks, it could be time to seek professional help. You’ll feel much better for it, and your wedding experience will be that much more awesome as a result.