You don’t even have to call for a back-up. They’re just there, waiting for you to spill it.
Stop chasing those people you think would make more meaning and colors into this life you think is dull. Stop begging for love, for acceptance, for appreciation.
Understand that just because she’s with you, doesn’t mean she’s owned by you.
You made her tough by telling her she’s not capable; telling her she can’t wear this or she can’t do that. Because from all those ‘you can’ts’ aroused her curiosity that maybe she could.