I’m going to let you in on a secret. I want to tell you about the best thing I did in 2017. Whilst I normally steer clear from any end-of-year roundup posts on social media that are thinly-veiled as ‘Happy New Year’ messages, I truly believe this is something we all owe it to ourselves to do. I cut out the toxic people and toxic relationships from my life, and it’s about time you did the same. You are worth so much more and deserve more from life than filling it with people who make you miserable. And as the adage goes, your vibe really does attract your tribe.
Say goodbye to those who add nothing but negative energy into your life. You know the ones. They make you feel inadequate because of your relationship or financial status. Their presence alone makes you feel like you need to be someone else, because they make you feel like you are not enough. They vie for the statuses that no one really cares about: the flashier car, the smaller dress size, and the better partner. None of those things are part of your legacy. They make you miserable. Perhaps they don’t even say so much as say “Hello” or “How are you?” but only get in touch when there’s something for them to gain from it. They’re happy to talk about you behind your back, make snide comments, and then ask for help in the same breath. Leave them behind.
Or perhaps it’s a toxic relationship, where you are constantly second-guessing everything and wondering if it’s you going crazy. Is she really just a friend, or is he cheating? It’s never just texts. “It was only a little bit of fun,” he says, as he tries to reassure you that it meant nothing to him. But it didn’t feel like nothing when your heart dropped reading the messages or seeing the photos for the first time. He says he didn’t tell you because he didn’t want to hurt your feelings, but in reality, he never considered your feelings in the first place. They make it out that it’s your fault, and they act like the victim when you call them out on their behaviour. Loving someone when you were at your most vulnerable isn’t a flaw you should be ashamed about, it’s a beautiful trait to be able to let your guard down like that. You can’t please these people because they always want more. More than you can give them, and more than they deserve. Close the door on these kind of relationships.
Sometimes it’s easy to let these people go, but most of the time you doubt yourself and your own instincts. But if they really wanted to be someone in your life, you would know. Their presence would be felt.
They wouldn’t care about your dress size or what car you drive, but what feeds your soul. You hope that one day they will change, that perhaps you’re the person to change them. Let me tell you, people do not change unless they want to change.
No, it’s not always easy, but the genuine happiness you have from surrounding yourself with people who truly care about you as a person and not how much money you have is 100% worth it. You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with, so make sure those people feed your soul and heart with love, positivity, and sincerity. And for the record, you are always enough.