1. When she backhanded me in the mouth until I lost consciousness.
“I endured a physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive relationship for over six years with my first wife, four of which we were married. There were many, many instances that should have caused our marriage’s demise.
The proverbial straw that broke the camel’s back, though, was eight days after I had major oral surgery. Due to a freak medical occurrence, I had to have 28 teeth cut out and two holes drilled into my sinus cavities from top of the back of my gums.
She and I were in a grocery store parking lot, and I asked her not to start an argument in the store because it’s a small town and I was so tired of being ‘those people’. Her reaction was to backhand me in the mouth. Six times.
Or at least I counted six times because I’m pretty damn sure I lost consciousness. I just remember waking up when we were pulling into our driveway while she’s freaking out because my face is against the window and blood is coming from my mouth like a fountain.”
2. When she threatened to kill me because I came home from work late.
“During the last year and a half of our marriage she became extremely psychologically abusive. She was a narcissist, controlled my every move, would isolate me, refused physical contact, I was just an extension to her life, was not allowed to talk to any female, was not allowed to hang out with any friends or she would ignore me for up to 5 days at a time, double standards everywhere, verbal abuse and the list can continue but it hurts to think about. The last straw for me was when she threatened to kill me because I came home from work late even though she knew I would be home late. It was just a little too late for her and she also threatened to hit me the same day. This was the second time this happened and I talked with several people at work about it and they suggested that I run. I had texts of the threats on my phone and contacted a lawyer that same week. She agreed to sign since I told her I would take severe legal action if she didn’t. Thankfully no children and it was a clean divorce and I’m happily divorced.”
3. When she physically attacked me in front of our then 11-year-old son.
“When she physically attacked me in front of our then 11-year-old son.
I’d been pondering the idea for a while. That was the clincher.”
4. When she said, ‘You didn’t pray hard enough and that’s why our son has cancer. That’s why I’m sleeping with my prayer partner.’
“When she said, ‘You didn’t pray hard enough and that’s why our son has cancer. That’s why I’m sleeping with my prayer partner.’”
5. She threw the cat at me. A cat. She threw a fucking cat at me.
“I left for work at 6am and forgot to unplug the toaster. When I arrived home at 6pm, I was given the “everything you’ve ever done to piss me off speech” just for leaving the toaster plugged in. I asked her what she did all day that prevented her from unplugging it herself. Another “I’m an asshole” speech. I said something to the effect of quit acting like your fucking mother. She threw the cat at me. A cat. She threw a fucking cat at me.”
6. She shot our dog.
“I was at work and got a call from my grandparents that she had shot our dog, Zoey, that was laying on the bed with her.
We were separated before that for other reasons, but that’s when I ponied up a few grand and went to an attorney to file.
I really miss her. The dog, I mean.”
7. Our daughter at 3 years old told us to stop yelling.
“Our daughter at 3 years old told us to stop yelling.”
8. When my buddies approached me to complain that she kept sitting on their laps, wiggling, and hoping for an erection.
“When my buddies approached me to complain that she kept sitting on their laps, wiggling, and hoping for an erection.”
9. She got pregnant and there was no possible way it was my child.
“She let me know she was pregnant and wanted my permission to tell all her girlfriends during a girls’ night out.
Since I knew there was no possible way it was my child, she was also unknowingly admitting to having an affair. (I can math, and she can’t). It was with her boss.
Lawyered up the next day, and he ate her alive in court. I got primary custody of our child we already had, and child support, and a sheriff’s notice that she had to vacate my home in 30 days.
I never knew she could be that stupid.”
10. When she falsely told our marriage counselor that I punched her.
“When she falsely told our marriage counselor that I punched her.
The next week, she denied saying it and accused our counselor of lying. He gave me a ‘You should leave this relationship’ look. I took that look as permission from a professional that I definitely wasn’t making the wrong decision. Got divorced and never looked back.
I legitimately feared for my safety towards the end — not that she would hurt me, but that she would make a false accusation to the cops or a crazy friend.”
11. When a friend’s wife said to me, ‘You know your wife is sleeping with my husband.’
“When a friend’s wife said to me, ‘You know your wife is sleeping with my husband.’”
12. When she staged a robbery of our house so she could pawn all of my shit for drug money.
“When she staged a robbery of our house so she could pawn all of my shit for drug money.”
13. The morning I saw a picture of some dude’s dick on her phone.
“The morning I saw a picture of some dude’s dick on her phone. She was classy enough to bring him to the divorce proceedings…”
14. When she falsely accused me of ‘inappropriate conduct’ around our kids.
“When she presented a picture of our four-year-old daughter and me lying next to each other on the couch watching Blues Clues to our marriage counselor as evidence of my ‘inappropriate conduct’ around our kids.
Thank God he saw right through that bullshit immediately and told her to knock it off.”
15. When she violently abused our daughters.
“When my stepdaughter became a teenager, my ex ramped up the nutso. She had always been an impatient, angry screamer of a parent. But as my stepdaughter became a young woman, my ex just went crazy with envy or something. I know lots of moms have a hard time with teenage daughters, but their base level patience is so much better than my ex’s was. Threats of cutting hair in middle of night while daughter slept, pulling hair, slapping face, ridiculing in front of her friends, swinging something that missed and put a hole in the wall—I was out, with the kids.”
16. When we flew across the country for her sister’s wedding and she wouldn’t let me go.
“We flew across the country for her sister’s wedding. She didn’t say a word to me the entire time since we had parked at the airport. Once we landed at our destination, we walked to baggage claim (absolute silence preceding for several hours now). At the carousel, I picked up her bag when she took it out of my hand and calmly stated, “None of my family knows you’re here–I told them I came alone.” She walked out of the airport and left me there.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder made for some really fun scenarios.”
17. When I came across a selfie she took with some dude laying on her.
“I was working on a mother daughter scrapbook as a Christmas present for her. Was going through her Google photos account looking for pics of them together. Came across a selfie she took with some dude laying on her. Confirmed her second affair. Knew it was over the moment I saw it. That has fucked me up pretty good.”
18. I opened the computer and found the personal ad she was running for a fuck buddy.
“I opened the computer and found the personal ad she was running for a fuck buddy. Apparently it was just me she wasn’t having sex with…”
19. When I found her, on Christmas Eve, still sexting a coworker.
“Finding her, on Christmas Eve, still sexting a coworker whom she claimed she was no longer in contact with (having been busted sexting him previously, also). I cleared out of there like a blackjack dealer.”
20. When she spent the money I gave her for puppy vaccine on pills.
“When I, as the only earner in the house, was denied buying a new pair of work boots—in December—because she needed the money to ‘buy vaccines for the puppies.’
She bred dogs as a hobby, I was a framing carpenter in Ohio. My current work boots were toast—holes in both, no soles. I needed them. Her ‘puppy vaccine’ story was bullshit- her hobby was dogs, but she was a pro at popping pills. That’s what she needed the money for.
I was done with her by March.”
21. When I came home from and she was in her room being fucked by some random guy she met on Tinder.
“Preface: we were doing a trial separation. She moved into the spare bedroom of our apartment. “Divorce” had been thrown around but we still spent time together and slept together. I wasn’t seriously considering divorce, but rather counseling, etc.
Up until the day I came home from work at the same time I came home every day and she was in her room being fucked by some random guy she met on Tinder. She had not told him she was married. I kicked him out of the apartment and made it clear to her I would be moving out as soon as possible.”
22. Me: ‘I love you.’ Ex: ‘ settled on you.’
“In marriage counseling:
Me: I love you.
Ex: I settled on you.”
23. I was on deployment and she yelled at me for interrupting her family’s celebration when I called on Christmas.
“I was on deployment and she yelled at me for interrupting her family’s celebration when I called on Christmas.”
24. The situation was so messed up that the cops actually testified on my behalf.
“When the cops showed up and arrested me while I was washing dishes. Found out after being taken to the station that she had claimed that I had been beating on her and my five-year-old son. Was acquitted in court a month or so later. The situation was so messed up that the cops actually testified on my behalf.”
25. When she told our three-year-old daughter that she hated her.
“I always refused to raise my voice during arguments, which usually made her crazier and scream louder. After one such argument, during which our 3-year-old daughter was playing upstairs, she started coming down at the same time her mother was storming up the stairs like a child of comparable age. Our daughter was in the way and her mother got in her face and screamed ‘GOD, I FUCKING HATE YOU, MOVE!’
Of course, my daughter came to me, hurt. That was the moment I decided it was over.”
26. When she threw the Thanksgiving turkey in the trash can and walked out.
“We were already not speaking.
It was Thanksgiving. I knew she wasn’t going to bother, but I made a turkey and whatever goes with turkey for my then eight-year-old daughter.
I had the turkey out on the counter to rest after roasting.
My beloved bride walked in, calmly threw the turkey in the kitchen trash can, and walked out.
I had to take my kid to fucking golden corral for Thanksgiving.
That was it. I was done.”
27. She started doing meth got arrested by the police and got caught cheating with her dealer for drugs.
“She started doing meth got arrested by the police and got caught cheating with her dealer for drugs. They are both in rehab and I am trying to manage the disaster she left behind. My 3 kids have taken it the hardest, they don’t understand why she went to jail or rehab and are very upset that they cannot see her. I can never go back she has ruined me and destroyed my kids. I am so lonely I lost my best friend, wife and soul mate to meth.”
28. I was working 6-7 days a week 10-12 hours a day and she called me lazy.
“I was working 6-7 days a week 10-12 hours a day and she called me lazy. She screaming in my face and telling me I was a bad Father as she demolished my son’s room.
29. Cutting up my clothes when I was out with friends, cutting my hair when I was asleep, random violence and screaming fits.
“Me and my ex were always having ups and downs. Cutting up my clothes when I was out with friends, cutting my hair when I was asleep, random violence and screaming fits… the usual…
We did the normal things couples were supposed to do and it seemed to prolong the episode for a time.
We bought a house for example.
Well, after we had the house the next thing we needed was a cat.
She loved it very much when it was a kitten but as it grew up it became more independent (it’s a cat duh!) and she couldn’t take this and became aggressive towards it.
I remember walking in one day and she picked up the cat and threw it up in the air, it bounced off of the ceiling and then I threw her ass out of the house bouncing her shit of the curb.
I still have the cat.”
30. She called me WHILE IN FUCKING REHAB and told me she had an affair 9 years prior and my 8-year-old daughter is probably not mine.
“Mine was the moment I was in rehab seeking help from the pains of life. She called me WHILE IN FUCKING REHAB and told me she had an affair 9 years prior and my 8-year-old daughter is probably not mine. Keep secrets that big for that long what else could I ever trust that woman with….DONE.”