When Timing Is A B*tch

When it comes to relationships, timing, is in fact, a really big bitch.

You don’t have to believe me. You can hit me with the “everything happens for a reason” cliché crap (even though “timing is a bitch” is pretty cliché), but I will strongly disagree with you 98% of the time.

Why? Because I have found that two people can be so, so compatible. They can have the same interests, want the same things out of life, and have undeniable chemistry. But the one thing they don’t have is time on their side which throws a wrench into the plans, making a simple situation complicated beyond measures.

Perhaps you meet someone and you hit it off, but you only have a limited amount of time to be spent together…you met them on vacation, you go to different colleges, or they are moving for a new job.

Hell, maybe you even found someone whose wounds are still just a little too fresh from their recent breakup, and regardless of their feelings for you, they need to heal on their own.

Or perhaps everything in life is just too complicated right now and their concentration needs to be focused elsewhere.

Whatever the conflict is, it causes you and your potential love interest to slowly back away from one another, certain that the timing just isn’t right, but hopeful that you can revisit one another soon.

Deciding to slowly let one another go sucks because you’re aware that you’re not together because of time, and not because the feelings aren’t there. In fact, it hurts a hell of a lot more when you know that if you had met before or after this exact moment in time, there’s a good chance you would have had a successful relationship.

Instead, you determine that now is not the time or place for you and this person to pursue something if it will only be a half-hearted attempt because you both deserve more than that. If you can’t give each other your all, there is no sense in continuing to build a relationship that doesn’t have a solid foundation.

But sometimes, we don’t always have to fall victim to time being a bitch. Sometimes, we can decide that even though our lives are hectic, and nothing seems to be okay right now, the one thing that is certain are the mutual feelings shared between two people.

Sure, some people are meant to share a small portion of their lives together, and sometimes things simply don’t work out. But before throwing in the towel and blaming everything on timing, take a good hard look at the person standing next to you, and determine whether their absence will be justified because of life’s craziness. And if not, do everything in your power to make it work. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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