Never Let Anyone Dim Your Sparkle Because It’s The Only One You’ve Got

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Brigitte Tohm

You know who you are. You know you are kind and genuine and bright. You are full of empathy and love. You are gentle and gracious. Even if they failed to see it, you must never forget it.

The world is full of people who are waiting to find these qualities in a person, but some of those people will take advantage of your kindness. It can make you feel empty and hollow and it can make you forget who you are. It can make you question yourself and who you know you are working towards being. These people come into your life dressed as a friend, a colleague, a potential partner and they’ll enjoy these parts of you, just as you’ll enjoy all the wonderful parts of them. They do care, I’m not saying they don’t, but they’ll care more about how you make them feel rather than how they make you feel. They’ll consume you and all the emotions you make them feel and once they’ve had enough, once it starts to become too much, they’ll let you go just as quickly as they picked you up.

They might even come back for seconds or thirds and it’ll be so ridiculously hard to say no because you’ll want to help, you’d never want someone you cared for to feel sad or upset so you’ll stay and you’ll let them feed off you again.

It’ll feel like you’re being weak but you know truthfully that it is the purest form of your strength, to be able to help someone who hurt you, to be able to put yourself aside and to use your best qualities to make someone else feel good about themselves. But just like the first time, once they are done using you up, they’ll go again. It’ll feel worse than the first time but it’ll be easier to recover from, easier to pick yourself up and dust yourself off.

Even though you are all of these wonderful things, you must also remember you are not responsible for their emotions anymore. If they choose to leave, let them. As hard as it is, don’t let them come back, turn them away. It is one of the kindest things you can do for them, to allow them to use themselves, instead of another person, to alleviate whatever pain they are feeling. You have learnt how to use who you are to aid those you love, and so they must do the same. Learn when to say ‘enough is enough’. It will be the greatest gift you can give yourself.

You know who you are. You shine bright for all those who are willing to remove their shades. Never let anyone dim your sparkle because it’s the only one you’ve got. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Writing is a much loved hobby of mine, along with eating pizza and drinking red wine.

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