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He Is Not Your Ideal Man…But He’s A Keeper

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He is not your ideal man.
He’s not fond of giving flowers. Don’t expect a large bouquet of red roses, or attractively arranged tulips with pink teddy bear on the side and a sweet note hanging. To him, flowers are nothing but an ornament that withered over time.

He is not your ideal man.
You don’t like his fashion style. He’s not into fit shirts and jeans. He doesn’t like formal, modish or trendy clothes. He loves black shirts with minimal prints. Don’t ever buy him clothes because you might dishearten.

He is not your ideal man.
He is not your travel buddy. He kills the fun of itineraries and photo ops. Instead of traveling, he loves to save money. Having a good time with him in a scenic place is rare.

He is not your ideal man.
He will not plan your wedding. He will not discuss small details like motifs and cupcakes. What really matters to him are your parents, the ceremony and the life that lies ahead.

He is not your ideal man.
He’s not a moviegoer. Watching the latest movie is not his kind of date. Don’t open a conversation about movies or cinematography because he’s way better sleeping.

He is not your ideal man.
He’s not a foodie like you. He will not bring you to a fancy restaurant or cafeteria and have something to eat or feed in Instagram.

He is not your ideal man.
He’s annoying. He hates your favorite basketball team. He will bother you while watching Korean drama or while reading a book.

He is not your ideal man.
He’s not as sweet as cotton candy. He’s not like Augustus, Edward, or Christian Grey. He will not send you sugary messages every minute of every hour. He will not post about you in social media. He will not surprise you on your anniversary or birthday. No balloons, no chocolates, and no love notes.

Nonetheless, he is a keeper. He is a lover in his own ways. He will make you laugh in the best way he can. He loves to sip a coffee with you at home and talks about the future. He loves to prepare a delightful dinner to satisfy your cravings. You will have your anniversary greeting through whisper, kiss and back hug. He will buy you a book. He will go along in your daydreams like visiting places that you like. You can be whatever you want to be in front of him. And I think, that’s enough. More than enough.

The reasons why he is not an ideal man are the reasons why I am happy with him. He doesn’t need to be perfect; he just needs to be himself. TC mark

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