To The Girl Who Replaced Me, I’m Happy For You Both

Flickr/Clara Araujo
Flickr/Clara Araujo

Dear replacement,

Though we may not know each other personally and we may not have a lot in common, we have something that undeniably connects us whether we like it or not. We will have the same special experience with someone. We will love the same person. And that person will love us back. Same person, different love.

When I first had an idea about you, I wanted to hate you. The person who doesn’t love me back, and chose to love you instead. And if you don’t already know, that’s the most brutal and emotional experience you can have. Continuing to love someone even if they choose to not love you back is like having your heart run over by a train that just goes round and round. The pain stops for a while, but you know it will always come back to remind you how fucked up your heart is.

I wanted to hate you, but I can’t. If he saw something in you that he probably also saw something in me then that probably means we have a lot more in common that we thought. But I don’t want you to worry. What I had with him was a crazy emotional rollercoaster ride, and I would do it all over again even if it killed me. But that was the thing of the past. I’m happy he found you. Sounds plastic, I know. I used to tell myself that to make me feel better. But I realize I actually do mean it.

I’m happy he has someone to think about when he wakes up in the morning. I’m happy he has someone to make spontaneous plans with when he’s bored. I’m happy he has someone to talk to throughout the day and someone that will help him fix his problems. Someone that will help him choose what outfit to wear since he’s really vain about his look. I’m happy that he doesn’t feel like going out or partying because he’d rather hang out with you instead. I’m happy that he has someone to kiss goodnight.

My only wish for you is that you don’t make the same mistake that I did. This man who loves you is a kind of a unicorn. He may be difficult at times but I promise you he doesn’t love just anyone. He won’t be ashamed to kiss you in front of his friends. He’ll never forget to invite you to his Sunday family dinners and bring you flowers when you’re down.  When you fight, you’ll notice that he doesn’t like to set it aside. He’ll try to fix things right away even if it”ll create a bigger fight. Because he can’t take not talking to you. When you two are out, he’ll have his arms around you the whole time because he doesn’t want anyone bumping you. Don’t make the same mistake I did.

Remember, I’m not in anyway mad at you. The truth is I’m jealous. That you’re the one he thinks about and you’re the reason behind his laughter and smile. And I’m happy that someone will experience the same or even better love that I did.

Please love him the way he deserves to be loved. The way he’ll love you. The kind of love that he doesn’t have to worry about. The love that he’ll feel secure in. He deserves the kind of love he gives to you. Last thing I ask of you, please don’t break him the way he broke me. He doesn’t deserve it. I’ve hurt him a lot of times and I got what I deserved. I wouldn’t wish the heartbreak on even my worst enemy. Love him the way he deserves to be, and I promise you he will love you even more. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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