Never make a man feel like seeing you is a “chore.” Women who are busy are automatically more attractive. They are mysterious, not needy. They are independent, not clingy. Men crave seeing them because they are not always available. Everyone wants what they can’t have—it is a cliche, but it is true. When you have access to something or someone all the time, this person begins to lose their lustre. This person has become a part of your routine, but they are no longer something you look forward to. They are just there.
When things start getting very comfortable, they almost become boring. This is a huge danger sign because the next step for men is craving alone time. Alone time meaning without you. Suddenly “boys night” happens 3 times a week, and you are not invited. You are not invited because he sees you all the time. He is actually trying to get away from you and this is the nicest way he can do it, by calling it “boys night”. This is not your fault, men just have a childlike attention span. It is like they always want the new shiny toy they just saw on commercial. New is always more exciting to them.
So how can you always stay new? Become busy.
Get a side hustle. Do what you always wanted to do but secretly were too scared to. Take a class, go to the gym, join a book club, rediscover your passion, hang out with your friends. Travel while you still can, make your dreams your new reality.
Most importantly chase your passion not a person. If you believe in this, someone good will follow.
Ambition does not attract assholes. “Work hard play hard” really can pay off.
Men are attracted to career driven women because they understand the hustle and respect it. There is more common ground with career driven women, because they can usually be more understanding about conflicting schedules. Career driven women get when you are busy (they are probably relieved), because they were just about to cancel on you to make a deadline. Men feel more special when they are with career driven women because they know they took the time to fit them in their hectic schedule. Seeing them is a treat, seeing them is a reward, seeing them is something they look forward to. They do not crave “boys night” at the end of the week, they crave “date night” with their Boss Girl.
There is something to be said about an independent woman. There is an underlying of hotness to them. Because men know you do not need them, but you want them. Men feel more at ease with an independent woman, because they genuinely feel like they like them for who they are, and not how much money they have. There is more equality, there is a healthy power struggle, there is less division.
Although this may seem sexist, but traditional household roles die hard. It is 2018 and while I believe men should still be a gentleman, that does not mean your lady is waiting with dinner ready for you in the kitchen. If both partners are driven, it takes less financial pressure off the male as the “provider” role. It also teaches their daughter a valuable lesson, “That Mommy can be just as successful as Daddy.” With a career driven women, there is less of an outdated divide between men and women. Men are not the only providers and women are not just caregivers.
Career driven women defy gender roles. They are not a lady in waiting, they are not a bride to be, they are not a princess. They are a Queen and they can reign on their own. Career driven women are not only better partners, because they can hold their weight more, they are also amazing examples for young girls.
Many young pretty girls still strive on letting a man take care of her. She has relationship goals, but not a 5 year plan. She has a Pinterest board of her engagement ring ready, but she does not have a schedule that does not revolve around her man. Her only role would be to make him happy. This is why these girls are so easily destroyed by men, because men define who they are. That is all they have. There is more to life than your relationship status. A career driven women decided love is not enough for them, they want a future too.
This difference is what men find so sexy about a career driven women.
They are different than the other girls. Career driven women want to create their own destiny, they do not want follow someone else’s dreams. They want to be with someone, not to rely on someone.
Men feel more special when they are with career driven women, because they knew they took the time to fit them in their hectic schedule.
Because they understand the hustle. They respect how hard career driven women work. They respect it, because they know it is not easy. They know they did not take the easy way out, like so many other women did.
Men feel more at ease that their partner genuinely likes them for who they are, and not how much money they have.