Your heart is to be guarded at all costs. Let me be the first to tell you that any form of romantic relationship riddled with drama, angst or pain is not the way God intended it to be.
There are numerous scenarios that could make up these fantasy ideals, usually placed in one’s mind by the countless novels and films out there that poison the minds of youngsters, causing them to believe that if love isn’t like that, it isn’t love at all.
One of these scenarios could be that the person you hooked up with will finally change his/her mind and fall madly in love with you instead of discarding you like a used rag.
Another scenario could be that the man who looked at you with stars in his eyes and then left you for someone else once he found out you were more of a middle-class citizen will realize his mistake and come running back to you.
It is completely normal to have these kinds of thoughts, but one needs to remind themselves continuously that these fantasies are only that—a fantasy.
There are a few exceptions where this fairytale love does exist; I’m not disputing that in the slightest. However, they are extremely far and few between.
These romantic pursuits can leave one feeling dejected, unloved, unwanted, worthless, and not good enough. These feelings can grow to an astronomical level, leaving the receiving person with a crippling depression or other symptoms.
Some are strong enough to remind themselves that the right one will come along. Not everyone is that lucky, and they harden their heart to the point that they are no longer even sure whether it is still beating. The stone that forms around these hearts is so solid that no light can break through it. They find themselves wondering whether they’ll ever be good enough for the person of their dreams.
Let me say this: that person who is causing you to feel like you are not good enough and who leaves you in pain every day? I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that is not your forever person. You may feel like they are the person of your dreams when in actuality, they will end up being your worst nightmare. You may not realize it yet, and that’s okay. The hurts that you will go through from each of these will make you fully appreciate the right person who comes along.
On that note, the right person may be exactly the opposite of what you thought you were looking for. However, they will be the person that makes you realize why God had you wait so very long.
This person will see the walls that you have built up over the years, and they will help you break them down.
They will be respectful of the trials that you have had to face, and they will fight every single day to remind you of all the reasons they love you.
The right person will wrap you tight in their arms late at night, so tightly that you will be able to feel all the shattered pieces being put back together.
The right person will be so gentle with you that you need to fight the urge to cry.
The right one will make you feel the most alive you have ever felt, and you will feel proud to be yourself.
Before finding your perfect match, there are a few things that will happen and that need to happen. The first thing is that you will heal. Painfully and thoroughly, but you will heal. From there on, your heart will begin to soften, but you will remain strong. You will discover new things about yourself, and you will discover your true worth.
Wait for these moments. This is not a process that can be rushed. It may feel like it is taking forever, but it’s worth it.
Trust God, trust yourself, and trust that one day, you will be able to let the right one in.