Determining what you want out of life is by far one of the most difficult tasks to accomplish. It comes with responsibility and a willingness to put yourself out there. Even more than that, it comes with the opportunity to get hurt. And I don’t mean the fall down and sprain your ankle kind of hurt (although that can happen on your journey too), but instead a kind of hurt that starts from within and works its way to the surface until it makes you want to scream.
The Hard Part
This pain can come from having your heart broken by a lover or a best friend, maybe losing someone you love, or even finding out that you can’t pursue your childhood dream for whatever reason. When you’re in that moment, it feels like you may never move forward. This is the demise of your path to feeling fulfilled and happy with your life choices.
We’ve all been there. We’ve all been torn apart by something or someone, left to pick up the pieces and figure out how to carry on. It’s a feeling of defeat and complete embarrassment. I won’t sit here and tell you it’s easy to pick yourself up and keep chugging along, because it’s not. That’s one of those choices we make when deciding who we want to be and what we want to do. If the choice you want to make it staying at rock bottom forever, if that’s where you feel most comfortable, then do it. But don’t you dare pretend like nobody told you that there was another way out.
Because here I am, telling you that it will get better, but only if you let it. Sulk away! Be sad! Cry your eyes out! Then through your tears, start pushing and don’t stop until you’ve found your way out of that bottomless pit and you’re back on track to being who you want to be and doing what you want to do. It seems impossible. We devote our lives to something for so long that we cannot fathom what it would be like if it just vanished one day. Sometimes those dreams that we maybe realize weren’t ours to begin with, and those people who we figure out have only been holding us back from being truly happy, are worth letting go of.
I know that this is cliché, but you really do only have one life to live. Do you really want to spend it chasing someone else’s dream? Or putting your all into someone who doesn’t appreciate your love and affection? Or do you want to go out and have adventures?
The Part That Makes The Hard Part Worth It
Travel, love new people, people of all different backgrounds! Learn new things every single day. Take up a new hobby, or a new cause. Decide that global warming or the education system, or whatever you care about, is important to you and then do something about it. Go out of your way to help someone, even if it just means holding the door for them.
Enjoy going to class, enjoy going to work, and if you don’t enjoy going to work, start looking for a new job. As the wise Confucius once said,“choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” Live a life full of passion and don’t be afraid to wait for something better. One day the right guy, job, friend, etc., will come along and show you what it’s like to be truly happy.
The Part Where It All Comes Together
Forget what people say about college being the best years of your life! Make every year the best year of your life because you’re always learning new things about yourself. Find what you love and then never stop doing it. You may strike out a few times when searching, but that’s never stopped anyone from playing the game.
Fill your life with experiences that make people want to know you because you have so much to bring to the table. Never let anyone suppress your personality or belittle your accomplishments. Simply being the best version of you is the number one way to live the life you’ve always dreamed. In the end, your opinion of you is the only one that matters so make it a good one.