A few things have happened this past month that have made me look at love in a new light. I don’t know if you could say that I have the authority to really be talking about this topic, as I, myself have never actually been in love. But who’s to say I’m not just as qualified as someone who has? I’m working on learning how to love myself day by day, and my life, too. I’ve started to notice that love of late is from things I have seen and witnessed, words I have heard spoken, and thoughts I have listened too. Which got me thinking about this:
There are too many mediocre things in life, and mediocre love shouldn’t be one of them.
It got me thinking about how we as humans tend to settle for things far too ordinary. We accept that what will be will be, too often. We just suck it up and get on with it instead of fighting for something far more extraordinary. Is it because it all seems too hard now? It’s out of reach, unattainable? The “I can’t be bothered” mentality washes over our pretty rose colored glasses and the possible opportunity for the fuck you could have gave is now gone. You’ve settled and for some reason you’re ok with it.
I see this far too often. Is it that we just grin and bear it? You couldn’t be f’ed working on the extra 10% that could make your relationship with life and love all the more extraordinary.
These mediocre things I speak of are the cards that came in the deck of grownup-hood: wake up to a daily routine, the same smell of coffee and those nine to five hours we dread (more like eight to six). We accept it as “life”. All those thoughts you had as a starry-eyed teenager, trying to figure out what exact extraordinary things you wanted to achieve, now seem like a distant memory. It wasn’t so long ago you felt this radical change come over you. High school was out and it was as if something much bigger than you was on the horizon; this life full of adventure, new experiences and carving out this dream you so badly wanted to make a reality.
And then it came. The settling into life, and all what may now seem like naivety has washed away, but it doesn’t need to be like this.
If we can accept that life will throw some clichéd mediocre things our way, we can still fight for the one thing that doesn’t have to be mediocre. LOVE.
Love is the one thing that comes in an abundance of forms. You can love your job, you can love your partner and you most certainly can (and should) love yourself. The energy you put into this lovable life can be that life-changing thing you need to cut yourself from the rat race and go on to living an extraordinary life, with an extraordinary relationship with LOVE.
You see, there’s no need to settle, not yet.
Because unless its mad, passionate, crazy love, then you my friend better start working on finding that extra 10% to be even greater in life and love than you are right now.