It’s happened to each and every one of us. We open ourselves up to another, just to feel inadequate. We give our vulnerable pieces that make up our heart and mind, just to get them broken down. A love story you once cherished so tightly and had dreams about became the exact scenario you have always been scared of.

Whether it’s happened to you one time or two hundred times, all of us will face the inevitable feeling of rejection when it comes to intimate relationships. But it’s not always the glorified feeling of heartbreak that tears us down the most; it’s the feeling that even though you gave your best to someone, it wasn’t good enough.

Well this is a message to everyone and I hope that whatever you do, you don’t forget this:

You could be the richest, most delicious, and the most sought-after piece of cake in the world, and there will still be someone who doesn’t like cake.

Rejection is a word that is too harsh. Just because something did not work out with another human, does not mean you are unworthy of love or intimacy and it certainly does not mean there is something wrong with you. I have been “rejected” numerous amounts of times and at the end of the day, I have learned it is not who I am that is being rejected. It is much simpler in knowing that rejection simply means that our two lives were just not meant to be shared on such an intimate level at this point in time.

Maybe it’s the notion that at one point, you were what they wanted, you were what they thought they needed and yes, that hurts. But we must not obsess over being wanted or needed or desired by another being –that’s selfish.

It’s about growing with another human and sharing beautiful moments of life with someone. Some of these times we spend with another might end in months of moments, some get married and spend the rest of their lives together, and some may find that their paths were only meant to cross for a short amount of time.

We must not relish on the paths that did not work out. There is typically a reason behind why they pushed you away or ended things. Maybe it is a reflection on them and certain areas they must work on before they are ready for a soul like yours. And other times, maybe it just wasn’t meant to be and that is perfectly okay, because why would you want to be with someone if you aren’t sharing the highest level of love and compassion for another?

There is always a lesson to come forth from “rejection”  whether it was learned through pain and heartache or anger and acceptance. Take the lesson, reminisce on the moments you spent, and get ready to open up yourself to the person who will never have to reject any beautiful part of your soul, because when that happens—it will all be worth it.