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The Differences Between Love And Hate

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Hate is easy:

If one thrives on hatred, should they set their mind to it, one could live perhaps the most content life of all. There is so much hate in the world, and it is so available that one could just reach out, as if into thin air, and grasp a bundle of hate and eat it. There is a lot of love as well, sure, but most of the time, it’s not so easy to just reach out and grab – and for that reason people tend to lean towards hate. They tend not to stretch their tired arm so far, not to rise from their comfortable seated position, not even to think twice about it. They just settle for hate. To get to love, one must pass hate. Most people, in their weak and sedated state, just stop at hate. It’s closer.

Hate is comfortable:

Hate can be comfortable for the hater but painful for the hated. Love can be painful for the lover and comfortable for the loved. It’s our charge as selfish humans to enjoy hate and ignore love. To focus on our comfort and other’s pain. Our own discomfort is far worse a thing then someone else’s pain simply because of who owns what. Perception is reality especially in hate. Love can scare us. It can rock our thoughts and rattle our emotions. Hate gives us the illusion of control because we think we understand it. Love confuses us, though it’s one of nature’s base values. There was love before there was hate. But hate has reigned longer than love.

Hate is what we know:

As our world’s history is so riddled with hateful people and hateful acts we seem used to it, and when those hateful people act out against other hateful people, and all the hate starts to fly back and forth, it feels as if it is right, as if it is normal. Hate is our status quo. Hate is harvested. Hate is given away for free. Love is cherished and often kept close to one’s chest. Love is something we are told we have to work hard to find and work harder to keep. History books are filled with hateful battles, quarrels, arguments, fits and spats instigated and fought by hateful kings, soldiers, warriors, conquerors, armies and militias. We are taught hate as kids. We are given the option to find love as adults. Love requires compassion. Hate requires only ego. We are born with ego, but we must learn compassion.

Hate grows, love shrinks:

The world is getting worse. Hateful people breed hateful people. Loving people breed loving people and hateful people. Love grows within the lover but shrinks within the world. Hate grows within the hater and grows within the world. Modern man is controlled by the masses. Modern man is comforted by large groups who think the same as him. Love is more powerful than hate. But love is outnumbered by hate. When the masses hate, the masses grow. Love is born in the universe and grows into the man. Hate is born in the man and grows out into the universe.

Hate doesn’t stand a chance:

Haters are more passive than active. Lovers are more active than passive. Love is worth dying for. Hate is not. The small armies of love will march longer and further than the massive armies of hate. The world’s lovers are aware of the world’s haters. The world’s haters are unaware of the world’s lovers.  Lovers spread love. Haters spread hate. But, lovers spread actively while haters spread passively. Love is right. Hate is wrong. Basic principles in this world are upheld by physics. Yes, the dusk of hate is dark and long, but the dawn of love is brighter and longer. A hater’s hate is no match for a lover’s love.  For even in death a lover’s love lives on when the hater’s hate turns to ash.

Postscript on love:

I wouldn’t dare voice an opinion on something that wasn’t entirely subjective. Love knows no rules, has no authorities, protectors or enforcers. Therefore I am free to write and speak all I wish about Love and no one can really say I am wrong about it. You can however say I am wrong about hate, but chances are, you are an optimist. TC mark

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    • Kyle

      Haters wanna hate
      Lovers wanna love
      I don’t even want
      None of the above

    • Nigel D.

      Yo, nice work covering your ass at the end there. I enjoyed reading this article, and I have nothing bad to say about it.

      • Anna B

        totally :P

      • Jeff Campagna

        Hey Nigel. Thanks for reading, man! It’s a modern writer thing, I guess. Old school writers, man, they didn’t give a shit about covering their ass. New writers, yeah, it’s all safe-siding. What can I say? :)

    • Anna B

      Both coexist in the world, but I hardly think love is overshadowed by hate. Love is idealized by many. Maybe you’re thinking about the despair some lovers feel. 

      • Jeff Campagna

        Thanks for reading, Anna. Are you saying you feel that there is more Love in this world than there is Hate?

        • Anna B

          OMG! YAY! I got a reply from a TC writer! *special moment* :] !! I want to believe there is more Love in the world than there is Hate. The older, more cynical me is saying that I’m being too optimistic about life. And my boyfriend will be there, telling me otherwise ;/ I think the lovers are too happy to complain, and the haters have nothing else to doo, sooo :D !

    • Paras

      without hate would we have love?

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      • Woyzeck


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        • Woyzeck

          Because there is no psychological basis to consider them oppositional, corrolary or  mutually contingent.

        • Woyzeck

          Because there is no psychological basis to consider them oppositional, corrolary or  mutually contingent.

        • Swail

          This reply scares me a little for some reason

      • Jeff Campagna

        of course. love is the parent of hate. you always have the parent. the question is: ‘would we have hate without love?’

        • Paras

          just one of those things where you can’t have one without the other.

    • Radio Raheem

      It was with this hand that
      Cain iced his brother.

      See these fingers, they lead
      straight to the soul of man. The
      right hand. The hand of LOVE!

      The story of Life is this…

      STATIC! One hand is always fighting
      the other. Left Hand Hate is
      kicking much ass and it looks like
      Right Hand Love is finished. Hold
      up. Stop the presses! Love is
      coming back, yes, it’s Love. Love
      has won. Left Hand Hate KO’ed by

      If I love you I
      love you, but if I hate you…

      • Rev. Harry Powell

        Would you like me to tell you the little story of right-hand/left-hand?
        The story of good and evil? H-A-T-E! It was with this left hand that old
        brother Cain struck the blow that laid his brother low. L-O-V-E! You
        see these fingers, dear hearts? These fingers has veins that run
        straight to the soul of man. The right hand, friends, the hand of love.
        Now watch, and I’ll show you the story of life. Those fingers, dear
        hearts, is always a-warring and a-tugging, one agin t’other. Now watch
        ’em! Old brother left hand, left hand he’s a fighting, and it looks like
        love’s a goner. But wait a minute! Hot dog, love’s a winning!
        Yessirree! It’s love that’s won, and old left hand hate is down for the

    • Michael Koh

      seven h8s nine

    • Michael Koh

      seven h8s nine

    • Miriam Mogilevsky

      I like this post. Nice and philosophical. :)

      • Jeff Campagna

        Thanks, Miriam! It’s pretty easy to get philosophical about love and hate these days though. ;)

    • Cowboy Santos

      nice article. you cant have love, without the hate.

    • SaraJane

      this is a sweet piece. looking forward to more posts from ya ^^

      • Jeff Campagna

        Thanks for reading Sarajane. I am hoping to get some more stuff on Thought Catalog. Let’s cross our fingers.  

    • priom

      “And here is a doctrine at which you will laugh. It seems to me, Govinda, that love is the most important thing in the world. It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.”

      great article, always a firm believer that “gentleness is stronger than severity, water stronger than rock, love stronger than force.” (another Siddhartha reference).

      • edelweiss

        Do you happen to do IB? Just wondering.

    • Guest

      “Love requires compassion. Hate requires only ego. We are born with ego, but we must learn compassion.”
      Just perfect.

    • HjopuQ

      Fuck you you’re a stupid fucking loser idiot fucki probably fucking jewish or some shit fuck u 

      also u write like u have add and are a shitty write and eat shit u ugly freak

      • Guest

        completely irrelevant, ignorant and uncalled for.

      • Jeff Campagna

        Case and Point.

        • HjopuQ

          case IN point damn u are a sad beta scrAWn wannabe jesus can’t write 

        • Jeff Campagna

          You’re clearly not stupid “HJOPUQ”. So why do you sound so stupid? What is your point exactly?

        • HjopuQ

          point is im bored

      • Chels

        jump off a cliff and do everyone a favor asswipe

    • anon

      have you considered that love and hate may not necessarily exist as two different entities? Lovers may be haters, and haters lovers too.

      But it was a very good piece (:

      • Jeff Campagna

        Hey Anon. Thanks for reading. Interesting theory. Two sides of the same coin. You know, the same emotion but with two different filters. It’s entirely possible. But even so, there are differences between the two when they are applied to reality. One entity becomes two experiences. 

    • Sublime4390116

      Listen to the Avett Brothers: Ballad of Love & Hate.  Good stuff, nice article.

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      Reblogged this on The World Race Team and commented:
      This had almost everything I was reveling in today. My addition: How much farther could love reach if we all followed the Ultimate Example of Christ’s love for us?

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