Instead of counting up your accomplishments and failures like you usually do at the end of the year, be thankful you made it to this point. Be thankful you’re able to look back on the year and reflect at all.
This year was unlike any other, so it shouldn’t be treated the same way as any other. You shouldn’t compare everything you’ve done this year to the years in your past. You shouldn’t feel guilty about all the things on last year’s resolution list that failed to come to fruition.
You should be gentle on yourself when you’re looking back at 2020. Instead of regretting all of the things that you didn’t get to do, be thankful that you have the opportunity to accomplish them next year. Be thankful that you have a beautiful future in front of you where you can make up for lost time.
You’re probably not ending the year on the greatest note — but you’re not the only one. Everyone is in the same siniking boat.
You’re not the only one who is feeling like they could’ve done more. Could’ve worked harder, could’ve exercised more, could’ve studied more, could’ve made more money, could’ve spoken to your loved ones more. But you need to remember, this year wasn’t about going above and beyond. It was about staying sane. It was about surviving.
Sometimes, making it through each day is the best thing you can do. Surviving is the goal. Thriving isn’t even an option.
Of course, it’s okay to be upset about all of your untapped potential. Maybe you were hoping this would be the year you would land your dream career or discover your soulmate or get married or travel the world. Maybe your expectations were sky-high in January and came crashing down as the year went on.
Like any other year, you probably have regrets. You probably have awful memories you never want to relive. You probably have moments when you could have reacted better and been a better friend/partner/sibling/child/parent.
This year was hell for everyone — and you don’t have to look at the silver lining if you’re not ready. You might never be ready. You might never be able to find a speck of good in this year and that’s okay. You don’t have to act like everything is fine when it’s not. It’s okay not to be okay.
Just know that you did your best in 2020. You shouldn’t be disappointed in yourself. You shouldn’t feel like you wasted time or energy when you were doing everything you could to get through this year in one piece.
As 2020 comes to an end, it’s okay if you’re upset about how the year turned out. It’s okay if you don’t have the energy to come up with a sparkling new resolution list for 2021.
You’re allowed to be enraged or bitter or upset about the time you’ve lost — and the people you’ve lost. You’re allowed to end this new year saying the only good thing about 2020 is that it’s officially over.