1. If you find that you can only relax and be yourself when they aren’t around, crushing you with the weight of their silent judgement and disapproval, it’s way past the expiration date.

2. The biggest indicator is when tensions should be high, you should be upset or arguing, but you just don’t care anymore.

3. There is no more communication exchange. You always feel like the next thing you say will cause another fight.

4. When you can’t make yourself trust them again no matter how hard you try.

5. Getting a text or phone call from them elicits an eye roll.

6. You really could not care less about their day or anything they have to say to you.

7. The sight of them does nothing for you.

8. You’ve bottled your real feelings up so much that now everything they do or say fills you with contempt.

9. You find yourself fantasizing of a life without them… and it makes you smile.

10. Spending time with one another feels like a chore.

11. When you catch yourself lying often. When you’re hiding who you are around them because you don’t want to fight or disappoint them.

12. When you won’t fuck each other anymore.

13. When you notice that your partner doesn’t miss you (or vice versa) after being separated for a while. If you’ve been apart for a couple weeks or longer and your partner still feels no particular urgency to see you or talk to you, then the relationship is dead.

14. When you don’t care if she leaves or not.

15. When you turn the corner driving home, and feel disappointment when you see their car in the driveway – because you know the minute you step in the door they’re going to start crapping on you again.

16. You used to think their little quirks and habits were adorable, Now they are just annoying AF.

17. When either of you whip out your phone constantly when together. Can’t hold a moment of comfortable silence to appreciate you both being in each other’s presence.

18. General apathy. From one or both sides, either can kill it. Apathy and stubborn behavior e.g. “I don’t hurt you yet I still don’t want to be with you. I also don’t care enough to do anything about either feeling.”

19. When you’re physically in the same room, but it feels as though the other person isn’t there – that their thoughts and emotions are somewhere else.

20. When you’re not enjoying your time around them anymore. There’s a difference between wanting a night away or a strong life outside of your relationship and full-on disliking their company.

21. When you stop kissing. When I realized that even though we still fucked like rabbits, but had stopped kissing, I knew it was over.

22. When the memories are better than the actual relationship.

23. When you’ve stopped inviting each other out.

24. When little things are bothering you. Things that never mattered before.

25. When you feel you deserve better.

26. When you have more arguments than conversations.

27. When you stop seeing a future with them.

28. When you discover irreconcilable differences. Relationships take a lot of work — there will be times when you don’t want to be together, or when you’re not sexually in sync, or whatever. Those things need to be worked through and your relationship will be stronger for it. The red flag I would watch out for is inherent differences in morality, beliefs, that kind of thing.

29. When you start fighting about a lot of meaningless things. In many cases, I’d say it’s a manifestation of the hesitation to deal with the harsh truth that you no longer feel that you want to be with the person.

30. When they would rather spend hours with their friends than five minutes with you.

31. When you get messages from them and you don’t answer right away.

32. When you are the one putting in all the work to keep it going.

33. You’re both cheating on each other.