How To Masturbate

How To Masturbate

If you don’t know how to masturbate, you aren’t alone.

Don’t be embarrassed if you aren’t sure how to masturbate. Some people start touching themselves later in life than others and some people have trouble figuring out what works best for their body.

Sexuality is confusing. Growing up is confusing.

Regardless of that fact, you deserve to experience pleasure. You deserve to know what an orgasm feels like. That is why you should read through these tips that will teach you how to masturbate:

How To Masturbate With Your Hands – For Women

Before you masturbate, you should put yourself in the mood. You can do that by dimming the lights, watching pornography, reading erotica, or listening to sultry music.

When you are successfully turned on, start by placing some lube onto your index finger and middle finger so that masturbating doesn’t cause you any pain. Then run your fingers along your labia and the sides of the clitoris as foreplay. When you are ready for the main event, rub your clitoris up and down or make circles across it.

(In case you did not know, your clitoris is located at the top of your vulva where your two lips meet. It’s the most sensitive part of your entire body.)

Instead of resting flat on your back, you should try lifting your legs high into the air to reach your clitoris better. You could also try standing or resting on your stomach — whatever feels the best for you.

If you are someone who enjoys penetration, then you could also move your fingers in and out of yourself. Start slowly and then let yourself move faster. To reach your g-spot, use a ‘come hither’ motion with your fingers.

Don’t forget to explore your other erogenous zones. Feel free to play with your nipples or hold your throat or run your hands up and down your own body. Experiment to see what feels the best for you personally.

Just remember that women usually take a while to orgasm, so make sure that you are patient. Do not stress yourself out by wondering what is taking so long, because if you get annoyed, then you are going to reduce your chances of experiencing an orgasm.

How To Masturbate With Your Hands – For Men

You probably masturbate by moving your hand up and down in the same motion, but you should switch things up by using twisting motions. You could also switch between palming your penis completely and using only two or three fingers.

If you are bored of the same sensation all the time, then there are other quick fixes. You can switch positions by standing one day and resting on your side the next day — or you could simply switch hands.

Another way to add variety is by thrusting your hips in order to create friction instead of only relying on your hands.

At some point, you should try edging. That is when you bring yourself as close to an orgasm as possible and then stop or slow down for a minute. Then you can build your pleasure up again. Do that as many times as you can handle and when you finally orgasm, you are going to feel a pleasure you have never felt before.

When you are masturbating, it’s important to remember that your penis isn’t the only part of your body that brings pleasure. You can fondle your balls, massage your taint, and even play with your ass.

Experiment with new things, because you are alone and there is no one around to impress except for yourself.

How To Masturbate With Toys – For Women

Owning sex toys is nothing to be ashamed about — just like masturbating is nothing to be ashamed about. If you are tired of using your hands, then you can get some assistance.

If you visit an adult shop, you can buy a vibrator to use against your body. You can either rub it against your clitoris the same way that you rub your hands there or you can penetrate yourself with it.

If you cannot choose between the two, then you could invest in a rabbit vibrator. That is a toy that allows you to feel vibrations against your clitoris and have something penetrating you all at once.

Just make sure that you follow the cleaning instructions on the product carefully so that you don’t end up ruining the toy or transferring bacteria into your body that should not be there.

If you don’t have any toys from an adult store and are too nervous to make the trip there yourself, then you can use household items to help you orgasm. For instance, you can grind against a pillow or (if it isn’t too weird) a stuffed animal. All you have to do is place your vulva on top of it and then grind your hips against it.

Once you are more comfortable with your body, then you can buy other toys like nipple clamps and anal beads and oversized dildos. You don’t need a partner in order to explore your fetishes. Feel free to test out anything you are interested in trying!

How To Masturbate With Toys – For Men

Don’t make the mistake of assuming sex toys are only for women. Men can use them too!

If you are too embarrassed to walk into a store and buy toys in person, then you can always order them online. There are plenty of websites targeted at men.

If you scroll through them, the first thing you find will be masturbators. Basically, they are toys that you can insert your penis into that are meant to feel like the inside of a vagina. All you have to do is move in and out of the device to reach orgasm.

One other toy that might enhance your masturbation experience is a penis ring. You wear it at the base of your penis and it restricts your blood flow. That way, you will have a harder erection and end up having a more intense orgasm in the end.

You could also experiment with anal toys. Straight men enjoy backdoor play as much as anyone else because their g-spot is located in their prostate. You’ll never know whether you like it until you try it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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