Everything You Need To Know About The Scorpio In Your Life

Scorpio is a passionate and often misunderstood sign. They are deeply emotional people who present a controlled, curated face to the outside world. They don’t trust their real feelings or vulnerabilities to almost anyone.


Scorpio Dates

October 23 – November 22

Scorpio Sign


Scorpio Ruling Planet


Scorpio Zodiac quality


Scorpio Element


Scorpio Positive Traits

Dominant, Controlled, Passionate

Scorpio Negative Traits

Stubborn, Angry, Overly Emotional

Scorpio Personality Traits

Scorpios are known to be very intense creatures. Their presence holds a lot of weight and aggression. They are known to be figures of great power and control.

Scorpios have an incredible ability to deny themselves human contact. They deal with seriou situations in a very methodical fashion. Known for their sexual prowess and energies, Scorpios are often very fond of mysteries and metamorphosis.

Scorpios are often dominant figures in their family, social and work groups. They are known to emphasize their powerful, sexual and dynamically deep aspects, but they can also be quite belligerent. When ignored, Scorpios react in a strong manner. They will never confront someone, but they will keep their guard up until they have a perfect moment to unleash their words and their fury on someone. They always have something up their sleeve, and hold grudges for insanely long periods of time.

Scorpios carry around with them a very strong understanding of the seriousness of life. They are aware of the tragic nature of it all, and therefore, they are suspicious creatures who dislike over optimistic philosophies and superficial attitudes that sugarcoat the human condition. However, they are not all dark. They do have a sense of humor, and they understand that life is filled with irony. They have a lot of tendencies that lean towards self destruction, so Scorpios need to be careful when it comes to controlling behavior, addiction and attachment.

Scorpio Compatibility

A Scorpio is intense, stubborn and quite funny at the same time. They are confusing creatures. They need to find a partner that can handle their intense emotions and their mood swings, without getting sucked into their dark minds. Scorpios need someone who will love them through those periods of intensity, and who will know when to leave them alone and when to keep them close. A Capricorn would be an amazing match for a Scorpio, because they are patient enough to deal with Scorpios many different personalities.

Scorpio Compatibility Chart

Scorpio and Aries Compatibility: This is a toxic combination. Each hotheads. Each get angry very quickly. And each are very competitive. They each strive to be the dominant ones in relationships and fight for power. They each come across as overly confident and a little too blunt sometimes so the things that do come out of their mouth when fighting aren’t nice.

Scorpio and Taurus Compatibility: This is arguably the worst combination of any two signs. This pair just seems to bring out the absolute worse in each other. Like a tornado coming into each other’s lives and just ruining everything about the other person. There are some people who just shouldn’t be together and this duo is toxic.

Scorpio and Gemini Compatibility: This pair is almost too alike that they don’t work. They each can be really stubborn and cold. They never think they are wrong and struggle in owning up to it when they are. Their fights are always very intense. While they each have an acid tongue they tend to say things they later regret.

Scorpio and Cancer Compatibility: Many believe this is the best match in the entire Zodiac. These two signs understand and complement each other perfectly even though on the surface, they tend to have pretty different personalities. What works here is that each person in the relationship is strong where the other is weak. They’re both very interested in having a strong relationship (something they’re willing to put work into) and they have similar goals in life they’re going to want to work together to achieve.

Scorpio and Leo Compatibility: In a relationship a Leo needs to be in the spotlight and the Scorpio does let them have it. While a Scorpio knows when to fight their battles and chooses them wisely, the biggest issue this pair has is a fight for power in the relationship.

Scorpio and Virgo Compatibility: This isn’t the best combination there is. But it also isn’t the worst. Together the strong parts of the relationships come out in the form of support. They each work hard and are motivated and driven. They each care a lot about being successful. The relationship isn’t either of their number one priority but they respect that. While it’s a healthy relationship it’s not the one that sends you head over heels.

Scorpio and Libra Compatibility: This pair balances each other out so well because while a Scorpio is emotional and very intense a Libra is very lighthearted and carefree. In social setting each sign can handle their own at a party and don’t rely on each other. While they both do well on their own, they are better together.

Scorpio and Scorpio Compatibility: Almost more than any other sign in the Zodiac, Scorpio needs someone to complement them — not replicate them. There’s a reason you never hear a Scorpio say “I married my best friend!” Another Scorpio will put Scorpio on the defensive and they won’t be able to feel comfortable enough to open up and do any of the “loving” aspects of a relationship.

Scorpio and Sagittarius Compatibility: Each sign is very stubborn but they never stop fighting for each other. Even though they have strong personalities it seems to work with each other because they make such a good team and really do support each other. Problems occur between this pair when one becomes too stubborn to apologize.

Scorpio and Capricorn Compatibility: This is the relationship you’re lucky to find when you’re ready to settle down. A Scorpio commits later in their life after they have had fun and want something serious and a Capricorn was simply ready for that all along. The needs of a Scorpio are a lot sometimes but if you ask a Capricorn, being understanding, observant, and giving a Scorpio space when they need it is easy. Scorpio’s personalities change frequently and what makes a Capricorn a good partner is they strive to be what a Scorpio needs all the time feeling much fulfillment and happiness out of playing that role.

Scorpio and Aquarius Compatibility: While a Scorpio might take things to heart and read people very closely an Aquarius has the ability to just brush things off. They will give a Scorpio time they need to come back to them. They will never overwhelm them with attention and they don’t need much themselves but the loyalty that comes with being with a Scorpio.

Scorpio and Pisces Compatibility: Like the saying opposites attract no truer statement applies more to this pair. A Scorpio is cold and guarded. They struggle in trusting people and letting anyone in. They always want to be the dominant one in a relationship. A Pisces on the other hand tends to be passive wearing their heart on their sleeve loving a Scorpio as hard as they possibly can. And while it’s a challenge once they have they have a Scorpio’s trust what this bond so strong is the loyalty to one another.

How To Attract A Scorpio

A Scorpio will make you prove your feelings for them. You will need to pay attention to them and learn them. Remembering things they say, recalling their motivations and their aspirations, and so on will show the Scorpio you are trying to court that you are serious about them. If a Scorpio tells you that they are fond of you, do not play any games. You have passed their test, and you must let them know that you reciprocate their feelings, or else they will feel rejected.

How To Know If A Scorpio Likes You

If you are trying to figure out if a Scorpio likes you, pay attention to how they are around you. Are they giving you extra attention in public? That is a tell tale sign that they are fond of you, because Scorpios do not bother wasting their time with people who do not intrigue them. Around their crush, Scorpios can be really awkward, and you may not realize that they like you because of that. If a Scorpio makes intense eye contact with you, and stares at you often, this is another big sign. Scorpios are known to speak with their eyes, so if they are focused on you — you have them right where you want them.

How Scorpios Are In A Relationship

Scorpios are incredibly passionate when in a relationship. They take intimacy and closeness seriously, because they do not trust many people. Scorpios think that intelligent and honest partners are wonderful, and they need to be with someone who can keep them interested and intrigued. Relationships will always take time with a Scorpio, but once devoted to someone, they are the most loyal sign in the Zodiac. Scorpios are so loyal, they often stay with people long after the spark is gone, which is one of their biggest downfalls.

Ideal Date For A Scorpio

All a Scorpio needs on a date is alone time. Therefore, a night in with just the two of you will be the best possible scenario for reclusive Scorpio. Make sure to create a little oasis for you and your partner. Things like candles, good music, food and wine will appeal to Scorpio’s sensual side, and it will create a hedonistic environment that they will enjoy distraction free.

How Scorpios Are In The Bedroom

Everyone knows that Scorpios are the biggest freaks in the Zodiac. They love oral sex, and are very dominant in bed. They enjoy a partner who they can get cheeky with, and are usually very intense underneath the sheets.

How Scorpios Deal With Heartbreak

Scorpios may never talk about their feelings, but they are extremely emotional beings. They are considered to be some of the deepest people in the Zodiac.Therefore, when a Scorpio is dealing with heartbreak, they feel their broken heart in full force. They feel hurt, sad, angry, betrayed, insecure and confused all at the same time. These feelings will last quite a while, before they slowly start to harmonize their life again.

How Scorpios Are As Friends

Scorpios, although guarded at first, are some of the most loyal friends in the Zodiac. They love being alone and having time to themselves, but they also enjoy having people around them when that aspect of their personality is turned on. They really love surrounding themselves with like minded people, who understand them and can handle their depth. Scorpios want friends that are just as committed to loyalty as they are, and they need to know that they can trust those friends. Trust to a Scorpio is absolutely everything, it is the cornerstone of every relationship and friendship they enter.

How To Gain The Respect Of A Scorpio

A Scorpio will respect you if you show them that you are classy and a little weird. They like people who can relate to them when it comes to being odd, and often admire those who are different than most people.

How Scorpios Are When They’re Mad

It is rare to see an angry Scorpio, as they are so good at keeping their feelings locked away within themselves. However, when they are angry, and when you are in their line of fire, you better watch out. They will stare you down, and that eye contact will feel like cold knives. They can be very, very hurtful with their words, and their sarcasm can cause a lot of harm to those who have to deal with it. Scorpios also don’t forget those who scorn them, and they will often hold grudges. They are emotionally destructive creatures.

How Scorpios Are When They’re Sad

When sad, Scorpios like to isolate themselves. They grow hostile and can have violent mood swings. Their intensity causes extreme emotions within them, and this can manifest into paranoia. Scorpios often think that it is them against the world, and will feel completely weighed down by that concept.

Simple Things That Make A Scorpio Happy

A Scorpio just wants to be understood and included. They are happiest when they are in a loving relationship.

Scorpio At Their Best

At their best, Scorpios are confident and determined individuals who are full of surprises. They are clever, and they always have something brewing in their minds. Their vision is incredible. Scorpios also foster a lot of willpower, and are very dedicated and loyal to the things and the people they care about. They will always fight their own battles, and they never give up. They are dynamic and deep, and are so beautifully emotional when they are harmonized.

Scorpio At Their Worst

At their worst, Scorpios tend to ramble and they have a stubborn way of thinking that makes them believe in their wants above anything else. They can be overly confident when they are allowed to run with their ideas, and this can get them into a lot of trouble. They can offend a lot of people with their tendency to isolate themselves and shut down, and their need to be sneaky and controlling can cause those around them to feel manipulated and untrustworthy of them.

What Scorpios Fear The Most

Scorpios fear failure and disappointing those they care most about. They are wildly insecure inside when it comes to certain things, and they fear that they will not live up to the expectations they set out for themselves, and the dreams they foster. Above all else, Scorpios fear vulnerability, and they are afraid of others knowing their deepest feelings.

Scorpio Likely Occupations

Scorpios are intense and meticulous. They have an amazing capacity to block out distractions, concentrate, and focus on a task at hand. This would make them amazing surgeons. They are curious and intrigued by knowledge, which makes them amazing investigators and interrogators. Scorpios are independent, however, so they need a job with a lot of freedom and room to roam. They would make amazing detectives, and kickass lawyers.

Scorpio Likely Health Concerns

Scorpios are ruled by the reproductive and excretory systems. Scorpios need to expel their emotions and they cannot hold on to their intensity, because it will cause for them to become blocked and uncomfortable. They are easily thrown off when they fester in their deep thoughts, and they need to learn how to omit all of their feelings and emotions in order to find a truly healthy balance.

Where To Take A Scorpio On Vacation

Scorpios love to travel, but they don’t ever want to go fully off the grid — they like their luxurious comforts. Therefore, a beautiful island that still houses stunning resorts would blow a Scorpio’s mind, and appeal to their need for pampering.

Scorpio Learning Style

Scorpios are investigators, so they are better suited to learn alone. They are also overachievers, often digging deeper than they should, and learning more than they need to.

Scorpio Humor

Scorpios are the rulers of sarcasm. They will always have something to say, and can often come off as rude to those who do not know them well enough. They constantly comment on things, and can use passive aggressive humour to get their point across.

Favorite Pastime For A Scorpio

A Scorpio loves music, and they always enjoy watching movies — alone or with the person they are in a relationship with.

What To Say To Motivate Your Scorpio

You need to understand that good people exist in this world, you included. Please, trust that not everyone is out to break your heart and hurt you. Not everyone has a hidden agenda. Your passion makes you feel the most incredible things, and when you push people away you deny them of the ability to experience just how deep and beautiful you are inside. People need to experience that, because you hold within you a love that changes lives. Your loyalty, your depth — it is otherworldly. Being on the positive side of that will truly open up the world for you.

If A Scorpio Were…

A Starbucks Drink: Iced Caramel Macchiato
A Colour: Scarlet Red
A Greek God: Ares — God of war
An Addiction: Internet Addiction
An Alcoholic Beverage: Tequila
A Drug: Heroin
In A High School Clique: Goth Kids
A City: New York City, New York
A Harry Potter House: Ravenclaw
An Untranslatable French Word: Jolie Laide — ugly beautiful
A Kiss: Intense
A Teen Movie: 10 Things I Hate About You
A Clothing Item: Little Black Dress
A Famous Landmark: The Pyramids
A Season: Winter Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Bonus: How To Date A Scorpio

by Almie Rose
Scorpios are known as the hypersexual, super passionate, all-around difficult sign of the Zodiac. And as a Scorpio, I feel no personal shame or guilt in admitting this. I’ve learned that dating a Scorpio is not like dating a normal person (and as a Scorpio, I of course feel like I’m special). Here are some tips on how to date a Scorpio.

First, let’s talk about what not to do. I read on SexualAstrology.com (yes), “To attract the Scorpio, wear black leather and be slightly fiery. But, still treat them with respect. Don’t kiss them on the first date. Display some competitiveness.” — This is terrible advice. Not that I have anything against black leather; I own 2 black leather jackets, and many leather-bound books (no). But I don’t know where they’re getting the idea that dressing like Fonzie is going to start our engines. Also, the last thing you want to do with a Scorpio is be competitive, unless you really like being talked over. Tell a Scorpio an anecdote about how you saw a celebrity at the beach and the Scorpio is likely to top your story with the time they went to karaoke with Bill Murray who told them the secret to life. And they’ll jump in with that story the moment you take a breath.

But yes, you should be “slightly fiery” – Scorpios have lots of fire in them, even though they’re a water sign. A Scorpio’s perfect date is like a fast-talking 1940’s film, with the two leads exchanging rapid-fire quips and scintillating banter. Your best bet is to make the Scorpio laugh, and to compliment them excessively. In this way, Scorpios are like Leos – we love to be complimented, though unlike the Leo, we’ll pretend that we don’t. “Oh hush,” we’ll say, as we make a mental note of the great things you just said about us to repeat into the mirror later when we’re feeling down, and we will be feeling down, and it will probably be over something insignificant, like running out of Keurig coffee pods.

You just try to deprive a Scorpio of a kiss on the first date and see what happens. We’ll feel rejected, pissed off, and wonder what is so wrong with us. We will hold it against you forever. When Scorpios hold a grudge, we hold it well, like we’re holding an angry Rottweiler on a leash inches away from tearing apart a hamburger. We’re that good. Of course, this is assuming the date is going well. Don’t just force a kiss on a Scorpio (or, uh, anyone). If the date is going really well, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t end with a kiss. If they’re a Scorpio, they’re probably gonna have sex with you anyway, and probably on the first date, and if it’s going really well, they’ll just take you into the bathroom. It’s why I’m not allowed in Brooklyn anymore.

But in order to get there, you’ve got to give them the mental gymnastics they crave. Don’t drive them too crazy, and be gentle with your jabs – Scorpios are really good at getting their feelings hurt over absolutely anything and everything. Call a young Scorpio woman “ma’am” and watch her cry. As tough and sarcastic as we seem, we’re pretty soft inside. Gentle teasing is fine; saying, “Your face looks like a raw ham,” is not.

And God help you if we have a great time and you don’t ever text us again.

I hope these tips will help you with your Scorpio date. As for where to take a Scorpio for a date? Try some place with booze and dark lighting. Yeah, that’s pretty much all we need. Oh, and make sure it’s quiet enough for us to talk, because we’re going to talk. A lot.

Leave the leather pants at home.

About the author

January Nelson

January Nelson

January Nelson is a writer, editor, and dreamer. She writes about astrology, games, love, relationships, and entertainment. January graduated with an English and Literature degree from Columbia University.