There comes a point in any relationship, whether you’ve made things official or if you’re still in that casual dating period, where you really start to assess your partner. You look past their looks, their charm and their sense of humor to size them up as a person.
This is an important moment because you have to really ask yourself a few questions:
1. Is this person someone who makes me want to be a better person?
2. Do they challenge me to be better?
3. Do they inspire me?
4. Do they encourage my attempts to better myself?
5. Are they a hard worker?
6. Do they have goals for the future?
Hopefully the answer to most of these questions is a resounding yes. Your partner shouldn’t be a twenty-five year old teenager, comfortably complacent, unmotivated and lazy. They should be on an upward path of constant self-improvement and inspire the same in you. They should have goals they are actively working towards.
It’s tough when you make the realization that the person you’re dating isn’t up to par. You have to decide whether or not you think they’ll ever change.
If the answer is yes, you should speak honestly to let them know that you want to see them reach their full potential and that these are the traits they are seeking in a partner. If the answer is no, you have to be honest and let them know that it isn’t working. Because you shouldn’t stay with someone because it’s comfortable. You shouldn’t stay with someone knowing that they are weighing you down and not helping you grow to your full potential.
I encourage you to take a look at your relationship and ask yourself whether your partner is helping you to be the best you can be or if they are allowing you to be comfortable and complacent.