You're Allowed To Care And You're Allowed To Show It 

You’re Allowed To Care And You’re Allowed To Show It 

You might be terrified of expressing your feelings because you’ve been called clingy before. You might not want to come across as the one who cares more. You might be tiptoeing around your feelings because you’ve been honest about them in the past and it ended with you getting your heart shattered.

Although there are certain people in this world who aren’t going to appreciate your soft heart, you shouldn’t let them dictate your behavior. If they want to hide away their feelings, they’re free to do so, just like you’re free to wear your heart on your sleeve.

You’re allowed to show your vulnerable side. You’re allowed to admit how much you care about others. You’re allowed to be vocal about your feelings even if everyone around you has been keeping their heart to themselves.

What is the worst thing that could happen by spreading some kindness? Sure, you might be called clingy, but think about what that really means. It means you’re transparent about your emotions. It means you’re honest about your expectations. It means you aren’t interested in stringing someone along or getting strung along yourself.

Isn’t being honest better than playing mind games? Isn’t it better than sitting around, waiting for your person to guess what is wrong or waiting for them to put a label on whatever connection exists between you? Isn’t it better to communicate, to get everything out in the open so you know whether or not you’re on the same page?

If someone cannot handle your love, they don’t deserve your love.

If someone considers you too clingy, simply for expressing your emotions, you should consider them gone.

Even though it might hurt to be pushed away by someone you care about deeply, it’s better to be yourself from the start and see how they react. It’s better to learn whether you’re a good match early on so you have the chance to walk away and form new, stronger bonds if they aren’t meant for you.

Remember, there’s nothing wrong with being honest about your feelings instead of trying to play it cool and act like you’re emotionless. You don’t have to play dating games in order to gain someone’s interest. You don’t have to come across as mysterious in order to find your person.

There aren’t any rules when it comes to modern relationships. You can make your own rules. You can express as much or as little emotion as you want. You can do whatever makes you comfortable.

You shouldn’t hold back your love for someone because you’re worried about coming on too strong. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed to voice how you’ve been feeling. There’s nothing wrong with having intense emotions. There’s nothing wrong with having such a huge heart.

Don’t let anyone convince you that it’s a bad thing you feel so strongly. Don’t let anyone convince you that you have to act heartless to get ahead in this world. Keep expressing your feelings. The right person is going to be refreshed by your authenticity. TC mark

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