There's Nothing Stopping Him From Texting You

There’s Nothing Stopping Him From Texting You

You shouldn’t have to beg for him to text you back. You shouldn’t have to send three texts in a row before he decides to give you an answer. You shouldn’t have to spend hours coming up with an interesting conversation topic because if he gets the slightest bit bored while talking to you, he’s going to stop messaging you back. You shouldn’t have to try so hard to get him to pay attention to you.

There’s nothing stopping him from texting you back. If he likes you, he’ll find the time to talk to you even if he’s busy. Even if the conversation only lasts a few minutes before he has to get back to work again.

The right person is not going to ignore you. They are not going to go MIA for days, weeks, months before popping back up in your world again. They are not going to leave you wondering whether you said something wrong, whether you accidentally pissed them off, whether there’s a reason they haven’t been getting back to you.

You need to stop making excuses for people who aren’t rising to your expectations. You need to stop pretending that you don’t care whether or not they answer you, when secretly, it’s all you’ve been able to think about lately.

You’re not greedy or clingy or attention seeking for expecting someone you care about to actually respond to your texts. In fact, responding to your texts is one of the simplest things they can do. You really aren’t asking for a lot. You’re only asking to be heard, asking to be seen.

If someone cannot put aside a few minutes here and there to text you, then how are they going to make the time to date you? How are they going to meet your more complicated expectations when they’re unable to meet the most basic one?

Sure, some people are bad at texting. Sure, some people will show their affection in other ways. There are always exceptions. But a lot of the time, the person who isn’t texting you back isn’t treating you well in other ways, too. And in that case, it’s best to leave them behind.

Their texting itself might not be a problem, but it might be indicative of a bigger problem. That they aren’t as interested as you are. That they don’t treat you as well as you treat them. That the relationship is unbalanced. That you aren’t getting everything you need from them, even though you’ve been giving them everything you possibly can.

Even though you really like this person, even though you want to make excuses for them so you can continue to keep them in your world, you have to be honest with yourself. You have to admit that, if they aren’t bothering to text you back for long periods of time, maybe they aren’t the right one for you. Maybe you value your conversations more than they do. Maybe they aren’t giving you as much as you deserve. Maybe you should move on. TC mark

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