1. Goals are important, but timelines are dangerous. That means you should think about all the things you want to accomplish. But you shouldn’t beat yourself up if you don’t accomplish a certain goal by the end of next year. You shouldn’t feel like you failed if success takes a little longer than you hoped. You can control how hard you work, but you can’t control when your boss will give you a raise. You can control whether you put yourself out there, but you can’t control whether someone else will fall in love with you. Focus on the things you can control and stop worrying about the rest.
2. Don’t look back on 2019 with regret because you did more than enough. You might not have accomplished as many goals as you wished you had, but you made it all the way through the year in one piece. There were moments when you wanted to give up and you kept going. There were times when you doubted yourself — and then ended up surprising yourself. You accomplished much more than you realize.
3. Nothing is going to change as soon as midnight strikes on the last day of December. Your life is going to be exactly the same as it is right now — unless you decide to make a change. You’re in charge of your future. You get to decide whether 2020 is going to be a repeat of 2019 or whether you’re going to start to do things a little differently. You get to decide whether you’re going to stay in your comfort zone or risk walking into the unknown. It’s all up to you.
4. If your January gets off to a rocky start, that doesn’t mean it’s bound to be a horrible year. It doesn’t mean you should give up hope. You can wake up on any day and treat it like the first day of the year. You can wipe the slate clean at any time. You don’t have to wait until January to change your life.
5. You’re allowed to set resolutions for 2020, but you shouldn’t go overboard. You aren’t able to do everything and that’s okay. You shouldn’t push yourself too hard. You shouldn’t put too much on your plate at once. You shouldn’t create a lifestyle where you are bound to burn out.
6. Your happiness is not a competition. Your success is not a race. In 2020, you should be focusing on yourself, not comparing yourself. You shouldn’t feel like you have no reason to celebrate your accomplishments because other people have accomplished the same thing much earlier than you or because other people have accomplished much bigger things than you. Focus on yourself and celebrate yourself. Stop worrying about everybody else, because their success is not going to lessen yours.
7. This year is going to be whatever you make it. You don’t want to walk into it holding grudges and practicing self-hatred. Even though there’s no real difference between 2019 and 2020, you can make it different. You can vow to treat it different. You can swear to make it the best year — or decade — of your life.