You Aren't Actually Unlovable 

You Aren’t Actually Unlovable 

Your baggage doesn’t make you unlovable. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been through some rough times in the past. It doesn’t matter whether the last person you loved screwed you over. It doesn’t matter whether you’re having a hard time trusting because of what you were put through recently. It doesn’t matter whether you feel too broken, too lost, too insecure to love again.

Everyone has been through their own version of heartache. Everyone has bruises that are still in the process of healing. Everyone knows what it’s like to experience unimaginable pain. You’re going to find someone who understands what you’ve been through — or at least accepts what you’ve been through and helps you continue your process of healing. You’re going to find someone who makes you realize your baggage isn’t as big of a deal as you once thought.

Your single status doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since your last relationship. It doesn’t matter whether all of the people you’ve been interested in dating felt differently about you in the end. It doesn’t matter if there’s a part of you that feels like you’re never going to settle down, never going to find love, never going to come across a person who fits you perfectly.

Just because you’re single right now doesn’t mean you’re going to be single forever. As you move forward, things are going to change. The people in your world are going to change. Your feelings are going to change. You won’t remain this unhappy forever. You can’t give up hope that you’re going to find your perfect match, a person who is well worth the wait.

Your innermost flaws don’t mean you’re unlovable. It doesn’t matter if you’ve made a lot of mistakes in the past. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been having a hard time breaking your worst habits. It doesn’t matter if you would never want to date someone like yourself.

You need to stop holding yourself to an unrealistically high standard. No one is perfect. Everyone you meet is a work in progress. The fact that you’re aware of the ways you can improve and are actively working on bettering yourself is a good sign. It means you’re on the right track. It means you’re putting in the effort, you’re doing the right thing.

Your poor perception of yourself doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It doesn’t matter if you can’t picture anyone falling for you, daydreaming about you, getting excited about seeing you. It doesn’t matter if you’re convinced you aren’t good enough for someone to choose forever. It doesn’t matter if you have a low opinion of yourself, if you have doubts about yourself, if you’re still struggling to learn how to love yourself.

Despite what you’ve told yourself, and what other people might have told you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are not unlovable. You are not destined to end up alone. You are not too screwed up to find love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Holly Riordan

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.