Instead Of Focusing On Finding Love, You Should Focus On Bettering Yourself
Self-Improvement

Instead Of Focusing On Finding Love, You Should Focus On Bettering Yourself

Bettering yourself doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you that needs fixing. It doesn’t mean you should be embarrassed or ashamed of yourself.

Bettering yourself simply means you’re going to put in the work to take care of yourself. It means, instead of pouring all of your effort into impressing other people, you’re pouring effort into making yourself happy. And happiness doesn’t always include a relationship.

Even though you might have your heart set on settling down with the right person sometime soon, if you place too much emphasis on your relationship status, you’re going to make yourself miserable.

While you should still put yourself out there and chase after what you want, you shouldn’t make dating your entire world. You should place most of your focus on taking care of yourself, on learning about yourself, on bettering yourself.

Bettering yourself is going to raise your confidence. It’s going to encourage you to love yourself. It’s going to make you realize that whether or not you’re part of a couple has no correlation to your value. You’re worth the same amount as a single woman as you are as an engaged woman or a married woman. Your value doesn’t ebb and flow based on your relationship status.

Bettering yourself is going to encourage your growth. It’s going to inspire change. It’s going to push you to break your worst habits and develop healthier ones. It’s going to shape you into the type of person you can say you’re proud of, the type of person you can say you love.

Bettering yourself is going to help you heal, help you move forward, help you forget about the bad things that happened in the past and look forward to the good things that are bound to happen in the future. It will make you more excited for what’s to come, about what you could accomplish, about what the world has in store for you.

Bettering yourself is going to make you a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister, a better student, a better lover. If you have the kind of heart that wants to give, give, give, then focusing on yourself for a while is going to help make that possible. It’s going to help you become a better listener, a better communicator, a better person to be around.

Bettering yourself is never done. It’s going to be a lifelong experience, so you’re going to have to stay dedicated, stay inspired, stay hopeful in yourself.

You can never go wrong with bettering yourself. In the process, you might even find the love you’ve been hoping to find. But if not, if you stay single for a while longer, then you’re not going to sweat it. You’re still going to be happy because you know a relationship doesn’t define you. You know a relationship isn’t the beginning or the end of the world. You know the one person who matters more than the future love of your life is yourself. TC mark

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