Despite What You've Been Telling Yourself, You Are Valuable 
Self-Improvement

Despite What You’ve Been Telling Yourself, You Are Valuable 

It’s dangerous to assume your worth is tied to any one thing, whether that’s your career or your relationship or your friendships. If you get your validation from a single outside source, then your sense of worth is going to rise and drop on a daily basis. Your confidence is going to change based on how well that single area of your life is currently going.

You can’t allow your relationship status to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter whether you’re currently getting over a breakup. It doesn’t matter whether your heart is having trouble healing. It doesn’t matter whether you’re spending your nights in bed alone. It doesn’t matter whether you’re the last one of your friends who is still single. It doesn’t matter whether you thought you would be married with children by now. You value doesn’t change based on whether or not you’re in a relationship.

You can’t allow your social media stats to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how many comments you get on a selfie. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have. It doesn’t matter how many people have been sliding into your DMs. It doesn’t matter whether anyone has checked your story in the last hour. Your value doesn’t changed based on your popularity on social media.

You can’t allow your career to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter how much money you’re making. It doesn’t matter whether you’re taking longer to achieve your goals than you feel like you should. It doesn’t matter whether your friends seem further ahead than you right now. It doesn’t matter whether you feel like you’re slowly falling behind. You value doesn’t change based on the amount of money in your bank account.

You can’t allow your friendships to determine your worth. It doesn’t matter whether there are certain nights you consider yourself lonely. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve lost touched with some people you used to consider close. It doesn’t matter whether you have trouble finding people to hang out with on weekends. It doesn’t matter whether you’re struggling to make new friends now that you’re older and in a different place in your life. Your value doesn’t changed based on the amount of people who like you.

If you’re unhappy with a certain area of your life, then by all means, you should try to fix it. You should take action. You should make a change. But you should never let your unhappiness convince you that you’re not valuable as a human being.

You can’t allow a single aspect of your life to determine your worth. You have to determine your own worth. You have to look in the mirror and say to yourself: “It doesn’t matter how much money I’m earning. It doesn’t matter what my relationship status is. It doesn’t matter how many friends text me on the weekends. It doesn’t matter how many likes I get on my latest post. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of me — because I know what I think of me and I am valuable. I am worthwhile. I am loved.” TC mark

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