Complaining all the time is going to make you come across as a grouchy, negative person — even worse, it’s going to make you feel miserable. It’s going to make each hour feel longer and each week feel like an eternity.
If you wish things were different in your world, then you can make changes. You don’t have to do anything too extreme like breakup with your boyfriend or quit your job or move across the country. Sometimes, little changes can have just as big of an impact.
If you’re bored in your relationship, get on the internet and search for some new date ideas you can try. Instead of sitting at the same restaurant you’ve visited every weekend since your first date, go to an escape room or go ziplining or rent jet skis.
Try something you’ve never tried before — or go out on a night when you usually stay in. That way, you won’t have to wait until the weekend to feel like you’re spending quality time together. You can look forward to the middle of the week, even if the only thing you’re doing is attending a book club together or going to the gym together.
If you’re annoyed with where you work, then you might be able to make little changes to make Monday through Friday more bearable. Maybe your boss wouldn’t mind if you wore headphones to listen to music or a podcast while you worked. Maybe you could pack a more exciting lunch than your usual sandwich so you have something to look forward to during the first half of your shift. Maybe you could spend the commute home listening to an audiobook or catching up with friends you haven’t seen in a while on the phone.
If you’re sick of living in your town, you might not have to move across the country in order to make yourself feel better. Maybe you can drive another town over on weekends for dinner and drinks so you experience a new variety. Maybe you can sign up for Masterclasses to interact with people across the country from inside of your own home. Maybe you can ‘visit’ friends in other states by playing video games with them online or Facetiming them while you’re both eating dinner so it feels like you’re in the same room.
When something in your world is making you unhappy, you don’t have to throw up your hands and say it is what it is. You can choose to make changes. You can choose not to live a miserable life.
All of the time you spend complaining is time wasted. Instead of moping about how much you hate your life, do something to change it. No, you might not have enough cash saved to quit your job on the spot or move across the country on a whim, but you can get creative. You can make tiny changes that will make your world a lot more exciting. You just have to put in the thought. You just have to put in the effort.