If you’re going to cheat on me, I don’t want to be the last person to know. I don’t want everyone around me to look at me with pity, thinking if she only knew… I don’t want to be the laughing stock of the town. I don’t want to be heartbroken and embarrassed at the same time. I don’t want you to make me look like some poor, pathetic person who couldn’t see what was right in front of my face.
If you’re going to cheat on me, at least don’t make me look like an idiot. Don’t make me look clueless. Don’t make me look gullible. Don’t make me look blinded by my happiness, blinded by my feelings for you, blinded by my desire to make a relationship work with you.
If we’ve been dating, that means I’ve been pouring all of my love into you. I’ve been telling everyone what a good person you are. I’ve been bragging about our relationship every opportunity I get. That’s the way I treat the people I care about. I spoil them. I give them everything I have to give. So if that’s what I’ve been doing for you, don’t make me look like an idiot by sneaking around my back. Don’t embarrass me by making me look oblivious. Don’t ruin our relationship while my back is turned, while I’m not paying any attention.
If you’re going to cheat on me, do me a favor and come clean about it before someone else breaks the news to me. I would rather have you admit what you’ve done wrong than hear about it from someone else who caught you in the act. I would rather have you respect me enough to tell me what you’ve done to my face than wait for your cheating to get around to me.
I don’t want to look like an idiot who had no idea her relationship was in the toilet. I don’t want to come across as the girl stupid enough to stay with a cheater. I don’t want my reputation ruined and my intelligence questioned simply because you couldn’t do the right thing.
If you’re going to cheat on me, at least be honest about it. And when you come clean about your bullshit, don’t lie to me about how the other person meant nothing to you. Don’t lie about how you technically didn’t do anything wrong because you didn’t initiate things or didn’t cross extra boundaries and do even worse things. Don’t lie to me about how you’re going to change, either. Don’t try to wriggle out of the toxic situation you put yourself in.
If you’re going to cheat on me, at least give me the honor of deciding whether you deserve another chance or whether you deserve to be kicked to the curb. At least do me the courtesy of knowing what’s been going on behind my back so I don’t come across like a complete idiot for falling for someone like you. 
