When you’re arguing with your forever person, you experience a conflict of interests. You don’t want to hurt this person because you love them more than anything. You don’t want to see them upset even for even a single second. But at the same time, you don’t want to back down. You don’t want to let them win the argument when you feel like they are wrong. You don’t want to let yourself get taken advantage of on accident. You want to hold your ground. You want to make sure they realize their actions have consequences.
When you’re arguing with your forever person, everything about your day changes. Every few hours, you want to send them a link to an article you’ve read or a funny video you’ve watched, but then you remember you’re in the middle of trying to make a point. You don’t want to act like everything is normal when you still haven’t had the chance to talk through your problems. You don’t want to give them the idea the argument is over prematurely — but you’re also dying to tell them about your day and kiss them and cuddle with them. You’re dying for everything to go back to normal because they’re your best friend and you just want them to be happy.
When you’re arguing with your forever person, you have to solve the issue as soon as possible, because it’s torture to spend even a single day on bad terms with them. You have trouble sleeping when they’re annoyed at you. You have trouble getting down food. You have trouble enjoying the good parts of your day because you wish they were sitting alongside you, laughing alongside you. Nothing is able to distract you. It’s hard for you to concentrate on work. It’s hard for you to fake your smiles. It’s hard for you to act like everything is perfectly fine when that’s not the case.
When you’re arguing with your forever person, you make sure you are careful about how you handle the situation. You make sure to fight fair. You give yourself a few seconds to calm down before you say anything. You keep your temper level. You bite your tongue when you feel yourself about to lash out. You make sure you stick to the topic at hand. You make sure the argument doesn’t escalate. You make sure you’re treating your person with as much respect as you would on any other, happier day. Just because you’re annoyed with them doesn’t mean you’ve stopped loving them. It doesn’t mean you’re getting joy out of upsetting them.
When you’re arguing with your forever person, it can be frustrating, but it’s never scary. You never stop to wonder whether the disagreement is going to end your relationship because you know that’s not the case. You are confident the two of you can get through anything. You know you are going to survive every speed bump. You know you are stronger than your weakest moments. You know you belong together.