Pro: You have someone to keep you company on your long, lonely nights. You never have to worry about going to bed feeling unfulfilled. Whenever you’re in the mood, you have someone who is going to answers your call, someone who is going to be excited to invite you back to their bedroom.
Con: This person isn’t going to be there for you emotionally. They’re able to take care of your physical needs, but since you’re in a super casual relationship with them, they probably won’t be interested in fulfilling your emotional needs. They probably won’t want to act as your soundboard when you’re upset. They probably won’t want to give you the same amount of attention you would expect from someone you were seriously dating.
Pro: You don’t have to worry about the restraints a traditional relationships puts on you. You can flirt with anyone you want without feeling guilty. You can skip buying them birthday presents and go through the holidays without meeting their parents. You don’t owe your FWB anything, so if you take a few hours to answer their texts, it’s not a big deal. If you’re too busy to hang out for a few weeks, it’s not a big deal. You don’t have to spend nearly as much time with them as you would spend with someone you were dating long-term.
Con: You might deal with unwanted jealousy. You technically can’t fault your FWB for flirting with other people because you aren’t committed to each other. They are allowed to hook up with other people. They are allowed to get in a relationship with someone else. But after all of the moments you’ve spent together, you might not want them with anyone else. You might want them all to yourself. You might decide your feelings for them are stronger than you originally assumed.
Pro: It might boost your confidence. Having someone who is always ready to sleep with you might make you feel better about yourself. It might make you feel desirable. It might make you feel sexy.
Con: It might destroy your confidence. Knowing this person isn’t interested in a serious relationship with you might screw with your head. It might make you wonder whether there is something wrong with you. It might upset you that they consider you good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date.
Pro: It might lead to a relationship. You two might have your fun and part on good terms. Or you might decide you’re interested in taking your relationship to the next level. You might decide your feelings run deeper than friendship and physical attraction. You might decide you want to try turning your casual relationship into something a little more serious. You might decide you are meant to be together forever.
Con: It might lead to heartbreak. You might be the only one to get attached. You might end up falling for them, even though they’ve made it clear they’re only interested in something casual. You might try to convince them to date you and make a fool out of yourself. Since a serious relationship isn’t what you signed up for, you might not get what you want. You might end up getting your heart broken You might realize you weren’t built to handle FWB relationships.
Before you jump into a FWB relationship, make sure you think through the pros and cons.