Are You Wasting Your Time Chasing Him?

Are You Wasting Your Time Chasing Him?

When he leaves you waiting for a text back for three straight hours, you might wonder whether you are wasting your time chasing him.

When he cancels plans at the last second when you are already dressed and ready to leave the house, you might wonder whether you are wasting your time chasing him.

When he views your story and likes your photos but ignores whatever direct messages you attempt to send to him, you might wonder whether you are wasting your time chasing him.

If you have reached the point where you are wondering whether you are wasting your time, then you probably are.

The reason you keep holding onto the wrong guy is because you are focused on the future. You are hoping he will come around eventually. You are hoping he will answer your texts soon. You are hoping he will ask you out soon.

You are hoping he will change his behavior soon. And that is where you are going wrong.

His behavior today is a good indicator of how he will treat you tomorrow.

However, it’s technically true that you cannot predict the future. You cannot guess whether he will wake up tomorrow, suddenly realize how stupid he has been all along, and declare his undying love for you.

You are considering uncertainty a good thing. You are letting the unknown provide you with hope. But you have to stop thinking like that when it comes to him.

Since there is no telling what the future will bring, you have to stop taking the future into consideration. Forget about what might happen tomorrow, how he might change, how he might treat you like he gives a shit after weeks of acting like you mean nothing to him.

Instead of wondering about how he might treat you in the future, pay attention to how he is treating you today.

Focus on the present moment. How are you feeling right now, right this second?

If you feel disappointed and frustrated and pushed aside, if you have been questioning your worth and wondering whether you are too ugly for anyone to love, then you should stop chasing him because he is making you feel like crap.

It is a waste of time to chase after someone who does not appreciate you. It is a waste of time to sit around, hoping they will decide to pay attention to you again sometime soon.

Stop hoping he will treat you differently the next day. Stop giving him an unlimited number of chances to set things right. Don’t continue to deal with his bullshit because there is a chance he might text you back tomorrow and make you feel good about yourself again (at least for a little while).

It doesn’t matter how he might treat you tomorrow. All that matters is how he has been treating you today.

If you are hurting because of him, and it is far from the first time, then you should stop chasing him because he is a waste of your time, your energy, and your soft heart. TC mark

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