Don’t Text Me First And Then Drop The Conversation

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I would rather have you ignore me completely than text me, get me excited that you were thinking of me, and then fail to respond to the text I sent back.

It makes me feel like a backup plan. Like you took your phone and texted every girl that was on your contact list, and then looked through the responses you received and only messaged back your favorites.

I don’t have any other explanation for why you would text me heyyy and then ignore me. I don’t understand why you would initiate a conversation that you were planning on stopping minutes later.

It’s not like I take so long to text back that you decided I was not worth your time and had better things to do. I might not answer after two or three seconds, but I never make you wait hours either. As soon as I see your message, I write back. I’m not interested in playing hard to get by waiting three hours to give you a response. I respond as soon as I have the time.

I don’t understand what you are trying to do. I cannot figure out what has been running through your mind. Your actions make zero sense to me.

If I was the one who started the conversation and never got a response from you, then I would get the hint. I would know you weren’t interested in talking to me. I would know that trying to capture your attention would be a waste of my time.

But you are sending mixed signals. You are actively choosing to reach out to me — and then you are choosing to ignore me.

I’m not sure whether you are intentionally trying to raise my excitement and then disappoint me in order to have some sort of power over me, whether my answers are too boring for you to continue the conversation, or whether you are trying to act mysterious. At this point, I don’t really care.

If you text me first, then I assume you want to have a conversation with me. I assume you miss me and want to hear from me. I assume I matter to you at least the minimum amount.

That is why, no matter how hard I think, I cannot figure out why our conversations end before they officially begin. I don’t know why I’m important enough for you to text randomly throughout the day but not important enough for you to keep talking to for more than a minute.

I do not understand why you keep texting me first and then dropping the conversation — but I am sick of it. If you are interested in building a relationship (or even a friendship) with me, then you need to talk to me.

If you are not interested, then leave me the hell alone. Stop leading me on. Stop sending mixed signals that are convincing me there’s a chance we are going to get together. Stop playing with my emotions because I do not want to deal with the confusion anymore. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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