When you’re in a mature relationship, you understand there are going to be arguments. There are going to be occasions when you disagree. There are going to be times when you give each other the silent treatment and send passive aggressive texts and go to sleep angry.
You are going to have fights here and there — but that doesn’t mean you are going to break up. You aren’t going to run away at the first signs of trouble. You aren’t going to let one night ruin what you have spent years creating together.
Instead of giving up, you will put your upmost effort into mending what has been bent out of shape. You will work together to come up with a solution because ending the relationship wouldn’t solve anything. That would be like sawing your arm off after breaking a bone instead of wearing a cast and waiting for it to heal.
In the right relationship, you won’t have to keep quiet and avoid confrontation because you are worried your person will leave if you speak up to them. If they are really your forever person, they will want to hear what you have to say. They will want you to be honest with them. They might not be happy with what you have to say, but they will be thankful that you were open with them.
After all, when you’re with the right person, one argument isn’t the end of the world, because you won’t let it get out of hand. You won’t let a silly little fight about the dishes turn into a fight about how you are unhappy and should have stayed with your ex.
In a mature relationship, you treat each other with respect, even when you are pissed off. You sit down and have a discussion like adults. You don’t name call. You don’t curse. You don’t dig up old grudges. You explain your side of the story. You help them see the situation from your point of view. When you are the one who screwed up, you take responsibility for your actions. You say sorry. You find a way to make it up to them.
If you have faith in your relationship, you know one bad day isn’t going to lead to a breakup. That is why you don’t spiral when something small goes wrong. You don’t throw up your hands and decide it would be too hard to fix things. You don’t run off to the bar to drown your sorrows in alcohol or cheat because you feel like the relationship is doomed anyway.
When you are with the right person, when you both love each other and respect each other, then you know your person will still be there in the morning. You know you are eventually going to work things out because you belong together. Because you are happier together than you would ever be apart.
The happiest couples aren’t the ones without any fights. The happiest couples are the ones who get through those fights and come out with their love even stronger.