I want a boyfriend who cares. Not someone who claims he cares and then treats me like a backup plan. Not someone who talks about how much he misses me and then chooses to hang out with his friends over the weekend instead of even asking if I’m free.
I want a boyfriend who cares about spending time with me. Who will wake up earlier than usual if that means having breakfast with me. Who will drive for hours to see me, even if that means he has to spend extra money on gas. Who will feel like his week is incomplete if we don’t get a chance to see each other face-to-face.
I don’t want someone who places himself first, who always needs things his way, who never feels guilty about leaving me waiting. I want a boyfriend who cares about my feelings. Who listens to my side of the story. Who smiles when he sees me smiling. Who avoids hurting me because he would feel horrible over making me cry.
I don’t want someone who nods along as I speak and takes glimpses at the clock, waiting for me to shut up so he can speak or so he can go back to doing whatever he was doing. I want a boyfriend who cares about the things I care about. Who listens closely when he hears the excitement in my voice, even if the topic is something he’s unfamiliar with. Who tries hard to get involved when he can tell I am passionate about something.
I don’t want someone who pressures me into uncomfortable situations, who pushes me into having sex before I’m ready, who makes me feel like my body is the only precious part of me. I want a boyfriend who is patient. Who cares about my comfort. Who will wait as long as I need, because he enjoys spending time with me even when we are fully clothed.
I don’t want someone who decides to leave me alone when I tell him I’m feeling under the weather because he doesn’t want to put effort into making me feel better. I want a boyfriend who cares about my well-being. Who will warm up soup for me when I’m sick. Who will pick up tampons during that time of the month. Who will be there for me when I am at my lowest point because he would never dream of deserting me.
I don’t want someone who gets drunk during every conflict, who runs away at the first sign of trouble, who gives up on the relationship the second things become a little bit difficult. I want a boyfriend who cares about fixing what becomes broken. Who will come to compromises with me. Who will fight for me instead of against me.
I don’t want someone who considers me an afterthought, who only pays attention to me when it is convenient for him. I want a boyfriend who cares about my happiness. Who cares about me.