I Don’t Want Meaningless Sex, I Want A Meaningful Conversation

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I don’t want to walk into a bar, chitchat about nothing for an hour, and then come back to your place without learning your middle name.

I don’t want to text back and forth for weeks, repeating the same empty conversations, and then meet at your apartment to silently watch Netflix before making out.

I don’t want to hook up with you while I’m wasted and spend the next day waiting for a phone call that you aren’t going to make.

I’m not saying I never want to have sex. I’m saying I never want to have sex with someone I barely know. Someone who considers me a warm body and not much else.

I want sex to feel meaningful. I want it to feel emotional.

That doesn’t mean I’m holding out for someone who I can imagine marrying. I’m only holding out for someone who feels like more than a one-night stand. Someone who makes me smile, makes me laugh, makes me feel comfortable.

I am tired of meeting someone new, hitting it off at first, and then having them beg for nudes before they even hang out with me in person.

I am tired of people who buy me a drink, ask for my phone number, or treat me with an ounce kindness and suddenly think I owe them my body.

I am tired of people who compliment me on my physical appearance without bothering to get to know the personality beneath the skin.

I want someone who cares about more than sex. Someone who will jump at the chance to see me, even if sex is off the table.

As much as I like having sex, I don’t want that to be the only reason I’m stopping by your apartment. I don’t want you to kiss me hello, rip my clothes off, and then call an Uber. I don’t want to feel like you are using me for my body.

I want someone who will make me orgasm with their mouth and then spend the next three hours binge-watching Westworld with me. Someone who is able to create a balance between physical and emotional intimacy.

I want to spend the day together. I want to grab dinner and swap work stories and cuddle once the sun falls. I want a relationship. A real one. A serious one.

I am not a prude. Once you get me into a relationship, I will do the dirtiest things that cross your mind. I will be open to anything and everything. But until then, I am not going to take my clothes off for you.

There is nothing wrong with casual sex if your heart can stand the temporary. Mine cannot.

I am not going to enjoy myself during sex unless I know there is going to be a next time. Unless I know you well enough to feel comfortable showing you every side of me. Unless I know you are someone I can truly trust.

I don’t want meaningless sex. I want meaningful conversations — with sex on the side. TC mark

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If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

At the end of the day, you have two choices in love – one is to accept someone just as they are and the other is to walk away.

We owe it to ourselves to live the greatest life that we’re capable of living, even if that means that we have to be alone for a very long time.

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