Don’t Ask Me To Hang Out, Ask Me On A Real Date

A couple on a real date
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I don’t want to be confused about what we are, about what I mean to you.  I don’t want to guess what’s been running through your mind. I don’t want to play games.

If you want to date me, then ask me on an official date where we’ll grab dinner and a movie and kiss in the car afterward. Where we’ll have the time to get to know each other in more ways than what’s your favorite Netflix original?

Don’t ask me to hang out at your apartment. Don’t leave me confused about whether I should be dressing up and shaving ahead of time or whether we are only hanging out as friends.

If you want a relationship with me, let me know. Don’t hesitate. Don’t act shy.

I want to know whether we’re on the same page. I want to know whether something is about to happen between us.

I hate spending my time overthinking. Trying to analyze what the latest text you sent me meant. Trying to figure out whether you have feelings for me or are only leading me on.

I don’t want another almost relationship. If we both like each other, we might as well get together. It makes more sense than flirting from afar for months.

I don’t want you to introduce me as your friend. I don’t want you to ask me to hang out. I don’t want to ignore the sexual tension between us because we’re both too scared to make a move.

If you like me, let me know. If you want to date me, ask me out. Don’t wait until the perfect moment because that moment is right now. I don’t want to waste any time we could be spending together. I want our love story to start right away.

Unless you aren’t interested in dating me. Unless you are only having fun with me until someone better comes along.

If that’s the case, you should know I’m not interested in casual relationships or almost relationships. I don’t want to hang out in your bedroom, watching Netflix and making out during the parts we have already seen. I don’t want to be the friend you flirt with when you’re bored and lonely. I don’t want to be the person who comes close to being your girlfriend but never earns the official title.

I want a real relationship with real dates. I want someone who is unafraid of asking me to be their girlfriend. Someone who is ready for something serious.

I don’t want someone who treats me like their girlfriend but refuses to call me their girlfriend. Someone who claims they are not ready for a relationship right now.

If you only want someone to keep you company on weekends when the rest of your friends are busy, then you are wasting your time with me. I’m not interested in hanging out and seeing where things go. I’m interested in something serious. Something that has the potential to last a lifetime. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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