I Am Slowly Learning To Focus Less On Reaching Milestones

A girl reaching new milestones
Daniel Corneschi

I am slowly learning to take one step at a time instead of gazing up the entire staircase. I have a series of goals I plan on accomplishing at some point in my life, but I refuse to place a timestamp on my dreams. Things will happen when they happen, as long as I help success along by putting in effort. By working my ass off every single day.

Instead of focusing on landing my dream job in the future, I am focusing on doing the best I possibly can with my career today. I am thinking small, but aiming big. Likewise, instead of focusing on getting married, I am focusing on surrounding myself with people who treat me with respect, with people who see my worth from the start.

I am slowly learning to stop comparing the start of my journey to the end of everyone else’s journey. I am not at the finish line yet. I am not even close — and that is okay. The exciting part is still ahead of me. I have so much to look forward to achieving.

I am slowly learning to relax. To stop criticizing myself for where I am, because I am not in a bad place. I am working toward a future I can be proud of having. I am doing the best I can with what I have. I am not a failure.

I am slowly learning that the milestones everyone posts about on social media are not the only successes worth celebrating. From now on, I am going to be proud of myself whenever I spend a day eating healthy or do one more pushup than I used to be able to handle. I am going to get excited over the little things, because they are stepping stones that lead toward the big things.

I am slowly learning not to rush success. If I try to take a shortcut toward my dreams, then I might end up unhappier than I have ever been before. I don’t want to get promoted at the wrong job. I don’t want to or marry the wrong person. I don’t want to rush into the wrong thing, just so I can cross it off of my checklist.

I am slowly learning there is no set course. Everyone lives their life differently. I am going to reach certain milestones earlier than my friends and other milestones later than my friends. There might even be milestones they reach that I have no interest in pursuing and vice versa. Different things work well for different people.

I am slowly learning to take a breath and enjoy the moment I am currently experiencing instead of worrying about what tomorrow will bring. Stressing about the future is not going to change anything, and there is only so much I can plan before my thinking stops being productive and starts being intrusive.

I am slowly learning to stop focusing on the end goal and enjoy the journey. I am slowly learning to appreciate where I am right now. TC mark

The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.

You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. You just have to show up and try. Focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. You’ll figure out the rest along the way.

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