10 Ways I Am Working My Ass Off To Become A Better Person

A girl who is trying to become a better person
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1. I am being more honest about my feelings. Instead of pretending I’m perfectly fine, I give an authentic answer when someone asks me how I’ve been. I might not give them every detail about my personal life, but I won’t lie to them either. I won’t pretend I’m living my best life, because I have finally realized it’s okay to not be doing great. It’s okay to reach a low point.

2. I am treating myself with more kindness. I don’t call myself ugly anymore. I don’t stare at my flaws in the mirror anymore. I treat myself the way I would treat a loved one, because I don’t deserve to be criticized by anyone — especially myself.

3. I am finding new ways to regulate my anger. Whenever I’m pissed about how unfair the world is and how I don’t know whether I’ll make it until tomorrow, I read inspirational quotes. I go for a jog. I throw my fists against a punching bag. I’m trying to cope with my anger in new ways, so I’m not always yelling and hitting walls and reaching for more beer.

4. I am learning to live in the nowInstead of worrying about what might happen two days or two hours or two minutes from now, I am focusing on what is actually happening right now. I have stopped trying to predict the future.

5. I am taking better care of my body. I’m eating better. I’m drinking more water. I’m letting myself relax when I get overwhelmed with stress instead of forcing myself to get a certain amount done by the end of the day. I’m giving myself a chance to breathe for a change.

6. I am encouraging myself to socialize more. Instead of complaining about how I don’t have any friends and how I never have a reason to leave the house, I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I have joined groups. I have reached out to friends who I have lost touch with throughout the years. I have found people who think like me, even though I used to feel like I was all alone.

7. I am making sure I hear what others are saying. When someone talks, I actually listen instead of nodding along and trying to come up with a response in my head. I have switched the focus from myself onto them and it’s teaching me a lot.

8. I am giving more compliments. Instead of keeping my nicest comments to myself to avoid looking awkward, I compliment anyone who walks past. I like more Instagram photos. I comment on more statuses. I let everyone know what they mean to me, because I know what it feels like to be miserable, and I know how one comment could change someone’s entire mood.

9. I am remembering what I am thankful for. Instead of complaining about every little thing that goes wrong in my world, I try to remember all of the good things I have earned. All of the people who have loved me. All of the beauty I have seen.

10. I am finally asking for help instead of trying to survive on my own. I’m going to therapy. I’m going to support groups. I’m reading self-help books. I’m trying my hardest to put my life back on track. I’m willing to do whatever it takes. TC mark

The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.

You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. You just have to show up and try. Focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. You’ll figure out the rest along the way.

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