When You Love Someone, You Never Make Them Feel Insecure

A couple in love
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If you love her, you won’t let her insult herself in front of you, because you think she is already perfect. If you love her, you will give her the reassurance she needs that you still care about her, and that you still find her attractive, even if you have already told her three times that day.

If you love her, she will never have to fish for compliments, because you will comment on her outfit before she has a chance to ask you what you think. If you love her, you will notice when she gets a new haircut or changes the color completely, because you will be paying close attention to her.

If you love her, you will show her through your words and through your actions. You will make a point to make her feel special. You will put in the effort the relationship needs.

If you love her, you will never make her feel like shit.

If you love her, then you won’t stare at other people. You won’t compare her to celebrities. You won’t comment on how nice your waitress looks and how you wish she would dress more like that. You won’t make her feel like you are settling and wish you had someone prettier, someone who weighed less or had a bigger chest.

If you love her, you won’t give her a reason to wonder whether you are going to stray. You won’t keep Tinder on your phone. You won’t keep your exes on your contact list. You won’t keep ‘harmlessly’ flirting with strangers when you are supposed to be staying loyal to her. You will only have eyes for her.

If you love her, you won’t make her question her own worth, her own beauty. You won’t make her wonder whether she should join the gym for you. Whether she should wear more makeup for you. Whether she should dress differently for you. If she chooses to do those things, she should be doing them for herself and know that you will support her every step of the way.

If you love her, you won’t give her even more reasons to feel insecure. She already has problems with her appearance. She already struggles with self-love. She doesn’t need you to add reasons to the list of why she hates herself when you are supposed to be the one person in the world who accepts her and loves her for exactly who she is.

If you love her, you will tell her she’s acting silly when she complains about how much weight she has gained or how messy her hair looks. You will encourage her to wear what she wants, because she looks good in anything. You will remind her of her beauty, inside and out.

If you love her, you will never make her feel bad about herself. Instead, you will help her feel beautiful in her skin. You will help her see herself the way that you have always seen her. TC mark

The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.

You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. You just have to show up and try. Focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. You’ll figure out the rest along the way.

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