The Worst Relationship Of Your Life Will Be With A Pathological Liar

A girl dating a pathological liar
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Never date a pathological liar, because they will be able to look you directly in the eyes and lie to you. You will never be able to tell when they are being authentic and when they are bullshitting you, because they don’t have any tells. They don’t feel any guilt. There is no way to wrench the truth out of them. You just have to hope they are being honest.

Never date a pathological liar, because the best ones will make you feel like you are crazy. They will know exactly what to say to make you question your own memory. They will be able to shift and twist every scenario to make it seem like they are completely innocent. Like you are the one in the wrong for accusing them of anything.

Even during the rare instances when you catch them doing something they cannot talk themselves out of, they will find a way to place the blame on you. They will be able to spin the focus of every problem toward you to make the mistake look like your fault. You found porn on their laptop? Well, you shouldn’t have been snooping through their belongings and guessing their passwords. You caught them sneaking into another woman’s house? Well, you shouldn’t have been following them and spying on them.

Never date a pathological liar, because they never think they are in the wrong. They act like they are innocent, even after they have been caught red handed. Sometimes, their lies will be so intricate that you will not be able to see them. And other times, their lies will sound so ridiculous that you will assume it’s the truth because no one would lie about something so stupid.

Never date a pathological liar, because they don’t show any sign that they are lying. They don’t shift in their seat. They don’t fidget. They don’t look away. They don’t act any differently than they do when they are telling the honest truth, so it’s impossible to differentiate fact from fiction.

Never date a pathological liar, because they will lie in ways you never expected. They will hide phone numbers under fake names. They will lock screens so you can’t read their texts. They will block you from social media so they can talk to anyone they want behind your back.

Never date a pathological liar, because they will lie about little things that there is absolutely no reason to lie about. They will lie about doing the dishes. They will lie about how much they have drank. They will lie about what happened at work and what time they woke up. They will lie as easily as their heart beats.

Never date a pathological liar, because they are such good storytellers that you will never guess they are fibbing — until you hear them tell the same story again in a completely different way. Until you realize that what they are saying doesn’t add up. Until you realize that you can’t trust a single word that comes out of their mouth. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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