I Am Not The Kind Of Girl Who Accepts One-Sided Relationships

A girl in a one-sided relationship
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I’m not going to rise up to meet your expectations when you’re failing to meet mine. I’m not going to be the one putting in all of the effort, the one who tries harder. Screw that.

If you repeatedly cancel on me at the last second, then I’m not going to go out of my way and rearrange my schedule to make time to see you.

If you take three days to answer my texts, then I’m not going to reach for my phone to type out a message as soon as I hear from you.

If you only call me when you’re wasted, I’ll wait until my words are slurred to call you.

If you flirt with other people in front of me, then I will assume it’s fine for me to do the same thing when someone cute strolls by.

I’m not into the whole I-give-you-everything-and-you-give-me-nothing trend. I’m not going to give you more than I get in return.

I don’t understand how you could have a problem with that. It’s hypocritical, to say the least.

What do you expect me to do? Text you back paragraphs, even though you only give me one-word answers? Comment on all of your Instagram posts, even though you ignore every snap I send you? Give you all of my attention when you can’t be bothered to give me half of yours?

I suppose that is what you want, which is bullshit. I’m not an ego booster. I’m not the girl you call up when you want to feel good about yourself. I’m the girl who is going to tell you like it is. The girl who is going to give you the same amount I am offered. 

I think it’s funny how you get so upset when my texts are spaced hours apart, or when I tell you I’m too tired to get drinks with you, but then you turn around and act like I’m crazy for getting upset when you do the same exact thing. 

Maybe if you don’t like the way I’m treating you, then you should start treating me differently.

Maybe you should take a look in the mirror and realize how screwed up it is that you expect to be treated like a king when you aren’t willing to treat me like a queen in return.

I’m sorry, but I don’t believe one-sided relationships should be the norm. They shouldn’t exist at all. Because no one deserves to be strung along. No one deserves to put their heart on the line and get shit on as a thank you.

Luckily, I know my worth, which is why I am not going to bend over backwards for you when you barely pay any attention to me. I am not going to put all of my effort into you when you give me the minimum amount.

Unfortunately for you, I’m not okay with lopsided relationships — and the fact that you are is highly unattractive. It makes me wonder why I even bothered with you in the first place. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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