You Are Not Actually Better Off Alone

Girl who is not actually better off alone
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You are better off alone than in an almost relationship where you have to mind read and makes guesses about what their mixed signals mean. Where you never know whether they are going to text back or keep you waiting. Where you spend the majority of your day thinking about what you might have done wrong, why they might not like you as much as you like them.

You are better off alone than stuck in a toxic relationship where you collapse into tears every single night. Where drama is a constant, inescapable part of your love. Where you fight over the smallest things, things that ultimately mean nothing at the end of the day.

You are better off alone than in a relationship where you are unhappy half the time.

But that doesn’t mean that you are better off alone as a whole. That doesn’t mean that you should push everyone away in order to protect yourself. That doesn’t mean that you should refuse to take a chance on love at all.

If you find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated, who puts effort into making you smile, who makes you feel alive for the first time in your life, then you are not actually better off alone.

You are better off taking a risk. Going on a date. Getting to know each other. Learning to trust each other. Allowing this person access to your heart, even though there is always a chance that they will break it.

When you find someone who fits you in all the right places, you can’t let fear convince you to stay single. You can’t keep telling yourself that you are happier alone. You can’t assume that a relationship will end in fire and flames before it even begins.

Once you find someone worthwhile, you have to open your heart. Open your soul. Open yourself up to the possibility that this person won’t hurt you like all the others.

Even though it’s tempting to run, to hide, to sabotage your chances at a real relationship, you should remind yourself that you deserve to be loved. You deserve to be held by hands that are reserved for you. You deserve to find someone who looks at you like you are their entire world.

Pretending that you are emotionless isn’t actually protecting you. It’s only stopping you from finding the person that has been searching for you.

You don’t want to keep hurting yourself in order to avoid getting hurt by someone else, because at the end of the day, you’re still getting hurt. So isn’t it better to take the chance, enter the relationship, and possibly discover that you’re exactly where you belong? Isn’t it better to try?

You have to abandon the idea that you are better off alone, because it is going to cause you to keep to yourself. It is going to cause you to ruin the best thing that could have ever happened to you. TC mark

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