Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you think you are perfect. It doesn’t mean that you like every picture you take of yourself. It doesn’t mean that you have never cringed when you saw your reflection.
Loving yourself means that you refuse to sell yourself short. It means that you accept compliments when they are given to you, and try your hardest to believe that they are the truth, instead of shaking your head and making a comment about how you disagree.
Loving yourself means that you refuse to put up with poor treatment. It means that, when someone ignores your texts or bails on plans, you don’t convince yourself that you are the one to blame. You don’t tell yourself that you didn’t deserve their attention anyway. Instead, you cut that person out of your life. You decide that you deserve better than that.
Loving yourself means that you are gentle with yourself. You don’t spend months feeling insecure after you make a small mistake. You don’t tear yourself apart for saying or doing the wrong thing. You forgive yourself. You accept yourself.
Loving yourself means that you see your own worth. It means that you understand how valuable you really are. It means that you have higher standards than you used to back when you were young, back when you thought you were unlovable.
Loving yourself means that you consider yourself a friend instead of an enemy. It means that, when you look in the mirror, you try to see the best in yourself instead of zooming in on all of your flaws. It means that you have stopped calling yourself ugly, because you deserve to be treated better than that.
Loving yourself means that you are making an active effort to treat yourself right. It means that you are taking good care of your body and your mind. That you are washing your face when your skin needs to be rehydrated and are taking a rest when your mind needs to recharge. It means that you put yourself first, because you can’t take care of anyone else unless you are okay.
Loving yourself means that you understand your confidence has to come from within. Not from some boy who calls you sexy over a dating app. Not from some boy who makes you feel pretty when he kisses your lips. Not from some boy who can see the beauty that you’ve been struggling to see your entire life.
You need to learn to love yourself because a boy isn’t always going to do it for you.
Love your hair, even if it tangles. Love your skin, even if there’s pimples. Love your stomach. Love your thighs. Love your smile. Love your eyes.
Love the girl you see in the mirror, because she has heard enough negativity from you. She doesn’t need to hear anymore. Now, she needs your affection. She needs your adoration.
She needs you to love her, because she is more remarkable than you have ever realized.