The Way To Win A Girl Back After Breaking Her Heart

God & Man

You can’t win a girl back just by texting her at two in the morning saying that you miss her or by sending her flowers and a new necklace. If you want to win a girl back, then you have to put in serious effort.

You can win a girl back by showing her that you’ve changed. That you’re no longer the same person who broke her heart in two. That you’re willing to make an effort every damn day until you become the kind of guy that she deserves.

You can win a girl back by taking responsibility for your actions. By admitting that you fucked up instead of trying to place all of the blame on her and guilt trip her into taking you back.

You can win a girl back by explaining why you did what you did — without sounding like you’re justifying it. By trying to make her see what you were thinking at the time so she has the answers that she needs, the closure that she’s been searching for.

You can win a girl back by apologizing to her for what you did. Not a blanket apology, but a detailed apologize that comes straight from your heart and shows you know what you did wrong, you know what you should never do again.

You can win a girl back by promising her things will be different this time — and by following through on that promise. By saying goodbye to all of your bachelor habits. By changing your status to in a relationship and fully committing yourself to this one person.

You can win a girl back by speaking from the heart. By telling her exactly how you feel about her and how much you love her instead of saying what you think she wants to hear because it appears in every romantic comedy you’ve ever seen.

You can win a girl back by reminding her of the good times you’ve shared. By bringing up memories and inside jokes that make you both smile. By letting her know you still have her photograph hanging on your wall.

You can win a girl back by being the guy you should have been the first time around. By answering her texts right after you receive them. By planning dates a week in advance. By being there for her when she needs you the most.

You can win a girl back by acting mature. By letting her know how you feel and then backing off instead of blowing up her phone and begging her to take you back. By showing her you’re an adult. By showing her you’ve grown up.

You can win a girl back by being patient. By realizing that it might take her some time to trust you again. By understanding that she needs a little while to decide whether or not she wants you, too.

By deciding that, either way, she’s worth the wait. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Holly Riordan is the author of
Severe(d), A Creepy Poetry Collection.
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