Date Someone Who Makes You Feel Comfortable From Day One

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Date the person you feel comfortable talking to, even though you’ve just met, and you’re usually nervous around new people. Date the person you feel like you’ve known forever, even though it’s only been a few weeks.

Date the person you aren’t embarrassed around, even if you say something awkward, even if you trip and fall, even if you spill your drink on yourself and ruin your entire outfit. Someone you can joke around with, someone you can laugh at yourself with and not feel judged.

Date someone you can send messages back and forth with all night long without running out of things to talk about. Someone you never have to force a conversation with, because the words flow naturally between the two of you.

You should never date someone who makes you second-guess yourself. Someone who makes you sit up at night, overanalyzing every word you said and questioning whether you should have done something differently.

You shouldn’t have to rewrite your texts ten times before sending. You shouldn’t have to hand your phone over to your friends for their approval before deciding whether or not you want to go through with sending a certain message.

You shouldn’t have to censor what you say, because you’re still getting to know each other and you don’t want to weird them out. You shouldn’t have to hide pieces of yourself, because you’re worried they’re going to run if they see your truth.

Date someone you can be open with from the start. Someone who doesn’t care when you admit you still listen to old Hannah Montana music or that you’ve never been kissed before.

Date someone who feels like a friend as much as a partner. Someone you can laugh with and share secrets with and talk to about nothing and everything until the sun rises.

Date someone you’re comfortable snuggling up close to, holding hands with, and kissing. Someone you’re not embarrassed to take your clothes off in front of, because they make you feel attractive. Someone who never pressures you into doing something you would rather not do.

Date someone you don’t feel the need to impress. Someone you can snort-laugh in front of and won’t feel like they’re going to find you less attractive. Someone you know likes you, ‘flaws’ and all.

Date someone you are comfortable sharing silence with. Someone you don’t mind sitting on the couch with without saying a word, because the silence isn’t scary. It feels peaceful. It feels right.

Date someone you are comfortable with from the moment you meet, because your love shouldn’t feel forced. It should be the most natural thing in the world. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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