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16 Women Reveal How They REALLY Feel About Bondage

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1. “I’ll let my boyfriend pin my wrists down with his hands, but that’s about it. I don’t want ropes tied around me. I don’t want handcuffs locked on me. I don’t even want a blindfold blocking off my vision. I’m vanilla and proud of it. If a guy doesn’t like that, he can find the door.” — Chris, 28


2. “I own handcuffs. Ankle cuffs. Collars. Leashes. You name it, I love it. In real life I’m a pretty independent, take-no-shit kind of person, so it’s nice to be vulnerable in bed.” — Maggie, 23


3. “I like wearing handcuffs, but only the fuzzy ones, because the other kind digs into my wrists and it hurts if sex lasts a long time. I don’t find pain sexy. I’m no masochist.” — Allison, 24


4. “I like to be free to move around during sex, but tie me down during oral any day. That’s super sexy.”  — Mallory, 26


5. “My boyfriend tied me to a chair and gave me a lap dance once. I think that’s about as close to bondage as we’ve ever gotten. I’d do it again, though. Maybe give him the lap dance next time.” — Mary, 22


6. “We have some rope we keep in the closest. Only use it on special occasions. Birthdays. Anniversaries. Holidays. But doing it less makes it feel more exciting. I think it would get boring if it was an everyday thing.” — Tiffany, 27


7. “I can’t really answer the question, because we’ve never used handcuffs or blindfolds or anything — but I keep begging him to give it a chance, because I think I’d be into it. I don’t want to leave him and I don’t want to cheat, so I’m hoping he’ll change his mind eventually.” — Janice, 21


8. “Honestly, the roughest thing we do is a little spanking. Not even hard enough to leave any marks. That’s as intense as it gets in our bedroom. We’re just not into that sort of stuff. Never have been.” — Vanessa, 30


9. “Okay, so, I always watch BDSM stuff when I masturbate. But when I finally tried it with this one guy I hooked up with, I hated it. It was sexier onscreen. In real life, it was just awkward for me.” — Destiny, 25


10. “I mean, I like it, but… It’s so much work. You have to get out all these contraptions and set them up. It just wastes time. I’d rather do it the old fashion way. Keep it simple.” — Mariah, 26


11. “I’m not into any 50 Shades bullshit. Sorry.” — Andrea, 20


12. “Blindfolds are as far as I go. I like having my sight cut off so I can focus on the feeling. I always orgasm faster with a blindfold.” — Alex, 21


13. “I can’t imagine my sex life without all the toys. It would be so bland otherwise. If you haven’t delved into the world of BDSM yet, definitely give it a try. Just find someone you trust. Make up a safe word. And you’ll have some serious fun.” — Veronica, 29


14. “I’ve never been in a long-term relationship, and I’m too shy to ask a one-night stand for anything kinky, so I stick to vanilla sex. Unfortunately.” — Karen, 23


15. “To me, sex is meant to be romantic. And I can’t imagine being tied at the ankles and choked as romantic.”  — Claire, 


16. “I hate being tied up. But I looove tying my boyfriend up. He calls me a dominatrix to tease me. We have a paddle and everything. It’s fun!” — Hannah, 26 TC mark 

I asked women to tell the story behind one of their Instagram photos 📸

“This is me on the roof of my building forcing myself to laugh. Every time I make my best friend take photos of me I remember that I’ve been single for 5 years and don’t have anyone to be in the photo with me. I’m just alone. My hair looks good though.”

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