10 Reasons You Keep Falling For Bad Boys Instead Of Finding Your Forever Person

Troy Freyee
Troy Freyee

1. You appreciate the I-don’t-give-a-fuck attitude.

You care way too much — about your looks, about your bank account, about other people’s opinions. You wish you could say fuck it and do whatever you wanted without worrying about any repercussions. And that’s exactly what bad boys do. They don’t care about anyone, except themselves, and you want some of that carefree attitude to rub off on you. You want a sliver of their spontaneity.

2. You like that they don’t censor themselves.

Bad boys don’t beat around the bush. They don’t pretend to be interested in the same bands as you to get into your pants. If they want to sleep with you, they make it obvious from the start. And there’s something refreshing about that. About not being played. About knowing what you’re getting from the start.

3. You want to feel understood.

When you find a perfect guy with a perfect family, there’s an unspoken layer of stress. You have to pretend you have your life together to look like you could fit in with him. But when you’re with a bad boy, who has dealt with more shit in a year than you ever have, you don’t feel the need to be perfect. You don’t feel guilty about your baggage. You can expose your dark side without worrying about being judged.

4. You get turned on by their talent.

For whatever reason, most bad boys have an artistic side. They play the drums. Sing in a band. Write poetry. They do something creative. And there’s nothing sexier than talent.

5. You want someone sentimental.

You want someone that’s in touch with their feelings. And bad boys are stuffed with emotion. No, they won’t break down and cry in front of you. They won’t sit you down and tell you about their childhood trauma. But they’ll start a fight when someone looks at you the wrong way. They’ll get drunk off their ass when they’re upset. They’ll start arguments and punch walls and curse you out — and that’s emotion. That’s passion. 

6. You want to feel alive.

You want more adventure in your life. You want to be picked up at midnight and driven around town. You want to ride on the back of a motorcycle with your hair flowing behind you. You want to get drunk with strangers at a dive bar you’ve never heard of before. You want to experience more of the world before you get too old.

7. You like it rough.

Sex is pretty boring when the guy treats you like you’re fragile, like he can’t kiss you anyplace other than the lips without breaking you. You’d rather be thrown against a wall and kissed. Pinned to the bed. Pulled by the hair. Rough sex is the best sex.

8. You don’t want to get bored.

Bad boys are unpredictable. You never know what’s going to come out of their mouths next. You never know where they’re going to take you on dates. You never know what sex position they’re going to pick. You never even know if they’re going to call you back. And there’s something twistedly exciting about that.

9. You think they’re sexy.

Leather jackets. Tattoos. Piercings. Maybe even a little eyeliner. There’s nothing sexier than a bad boy, because they don’t stick to the usual dress code. They’re different. And different is pretty damn hot.

10. They prepare you for something real.

After you date a bad boy, after you deal with all of the BS that comes along with them, you’ll realize what you deserve. Someone that doesn’t get angry at you out of the blue. Someone that doesn’t call you a bitch. Someone that doesn’t treat you like an option. Someone that’s ready to settle down. Because, once the bad boys are out of your system, you’ll be ready to settle down, too. TC mark 

The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.

You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. You just have to show up and try. Focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. You’ll figure out the rest along the way.

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