You will never be good enough. That’s how you feel, because no matter what you do, you never reach the level of satisfaction you were hoping for. You earned a degree and were proud for three months — until you had trouble finding work. You met the perfect man and were proud for six months — until the breakup.
Your optimism never lasts, because this world has a harsh way of snapping you back to reality.
You’re always going to look in the mirror and be disgusted by what you see. If you get rid of that pimple on your chin, your focus will swivel to your oversized forehead. And when you get bangs, you’ll realize that your nose is another problem area. There will always be something — if you let there be something.
You will never be good enough if you keep comparing yourself to the women on Instagram with three layers of make-up, the women on magazines with photoshopped thighs, the women on television that are living out their dreams ten years earlier than you.
Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough. Not social media. Not your teachers. Not your exes. And certainly not yourself.
If you’re looking for approval, you’re looking in the wrong places, because some people already think that you are good enough. Ask your friends. Your mother. Your father. Your grandmother. They’ll say how proud they are. They’ll say how, in their eyes, you’re already successful. You’re already perfect.
But you won’t believe it, because they’re family. They’re forced to say such things. They’re forced to love you.
So you keep thinking that you’ve fallen behind in life. You haven’t reached half of your minor goals, but your friends are already within grasp of their wildest dreams. Everyone else is ahead of you. You’re not good enough. You’ll never be good enough.
But maybe that mindset isn’t such a bad thing. Maybe it’s okay to be convinced you need to work harder, to be better, so you can catch up to your peers.
You will never be good enough, because there’s always room for improvement. You will never be good enough, because you have high standards. You will never be good enough, because you understand that you’re destined for greater things.
You will never be good enough, because what’s the point in living once you’ve become enough? What do you have left to do?
If you have big dreams you’re nowhere near reaching, don’t beat yourself up over it. Be thankful that you still have something to work for — something to live for.
Because, once all your goals are complete and you’ve done everything you wanted to do, you’ll be bored. Lost. Lifeless.
You are never going to be good enough. Run that sentence through your mind again and again. But don’t let it depress you. Don’t nod your head, giving the words the power to make you to feel even more worthless. Let it motivate you. Let it remind you that there’s always going to be something new on your to-do list. That you’re never going to be done working your ass off.
No, you are never going to be good enough for yourself. But you’re already good enough for your friends. For your family. For the people that love you.
So stop being so damn hard on yourself.