You find the love of your life, but he breaks your heart. You land a high-paying job, but your boss is an asshole. You get a new car, but some imbecile crashes into you. There’s always something.
If you’re always looking for a glitch to complain about, you’re going to find it.
People are constantly telling you it gets better, which is true. Don’t doubt that. But time isn’t going to fix everything. You are. By changing your perspective. By altering your attitude. By seeing that clichéd silver lining.
The next time you get your heart broken, be thankful that you went through the experience of falling in love. Or that you know what type of red flags to look out for in the future.
The next time your boss curses you out, ignore the criticism and focus on the work. Focus on the fact that you’re on your way to success. On the fact that you’re living your dream and no one can take that away from you.
And the next time someone hits your car and scratches the fresh paint, be thankful that the accident wasn’t worse. That no one got hurt. That you’re still alive to be pissed about it all.
Because, no matter what, you’re going to get fucked over. By exes. By “friends.” By family members. By complete strangers you hope to never see again.
Even if you’re beautiful, boys are still going to dump you. Even if you’re talented, your work is still going to get rejected. Even if you’re rich, friends are still going to take advantage of you. It won’t happen all the time, but it will happen some of the time–even if you’re as close to perfect as a human can possibly be.
It doesn’t matter how smart or talented or emotionless you are. You’re still going to get screwed over. You can’t escape certain shitstorms.
But you can control how you handle them. You get to decide whether you complain to your drinking buddies about how you hate your life, work on a way to change your life, or learn to see the beauty in your life.
You’re always going to have something to complain about. Something that feels like the end of the world to you. Even if you were Beyoncé, there would be something bothering you that caused you stress and anxiety and sleepless nights.
So what do you want to do? Keep complaining about small things until the world gives you something bigger to complain about? Or appreciate what you have and try to grasp onto as much happiness as you can?
The world doesn’t care what decision you make. It’s going to keep treating you the same way–which is why your reaction is everything. Your reaction determines who you really are.
You can’t stop yourself from getting screwed over. But you can choose how hard you’re going to take the hit. So don’t screw yourself over by dwelling on the pain more than you have to.